My Angel has gone to heaven

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Over the past several months I have been posting messages about my wonderful mum and our journey with the gastric adenocarcinoma that she was diagnosed with in 2007. After a courageous 20 month battle, my mum passed away without warning on 16 July 2009. Nine weeks ago, she had gone into the hospice 'for a week to have her analgesics changed' and never made it back home. She became so unwell from the new analgesics and as a result missed too much chemotherapy, which really concerned me. My first baby is due in November and I knew how much it would mean to her to be there to hold my baby. She was in an immense amount of pain on the 15th, but I never imagined that she would take her last breath before I returned to her the next day. The doctors were not able to tell me what exactly caused her death and I feel so robbed not to have been there with her at that time. A part of me has gone with her and I don't think I'll ever feel complete again.

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Joan_l_3

Dear Daughter,

I'm so sorry about your mother. You must be grieving for her now.

I want to urge you not to feel badly because you were not present when your mother passed away. Both of my parents and my older brother waited until they were alone to leave this earth. Hospice nurses will tell you that this is frequently the case; terminally ill patients wait until they are alone because they do not wish to cause their loved ones any more pain.

Knowing that your mother is no longer in pain will ease your grief even though you will continue to miss her.

Take care of yourself. I will keep you in my prayers. Godspeed.

Joan L

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Thereishope

Dear Maria,

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Your mom was definitely a trooper. I told myself it was Jesus's plan that my mom be with him. That way of thinking has comforted me a lot. Also knowing that she isn't in pain anymore. I know it is pretty devastating to lose a parent. Don't feel alone in your loss. I will pray for you and your family.

Ivy

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Marias_Daughter

Thanks for your kind words and prayers, Joan. If there is anything I can take comfort in at the moment, it is knowing that my mum is no longer in pain.

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chriskev

Hi I would like to start off by saying I know your pain..I lostmy husbandto stomache cancer he was 45 and passed on 7/9/09 he was diagonised in jan /09 the time went very fast..my husband my son and myself were at the home depot on 7/7/09 and he was ok on 7/8 he said he wasnt feeling well he didnt want to goout i stoold up the whole night with him and then at around 6 am i fel asleep i woke at 9 am and my husband passed away athome i hate knowing i fell asleep but everybody says he didnt want me to see him go and as muc as i hate ti hear it and say it to you just think your mom didnt want you there to see her go eithier i know you dont want to hear it i am so sorry fo your loss

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Sunlover317

I'm sorry. I lost my mother to gastric adenocarcinoma on August 9th. We had just come home from a vacation in Orlando, she had a chemo treatment, her lungs filled with fluid and she never recovered. Two weeks after getting hom from vacation, she passed away. I know how you feel. I have a 22 month old son who she loved and wanted so badly to see grow up. Once our mother's leave us, our lives our never the same. I completely understand your pain.

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