I would like those who have cancer to keep the faith. Say your prayers. God hears you. I have less than 6 months and its hard as hell to prepare yourself and your family. I have a loving husband that dotes on me everyday and am so blessed for that. Spouses, children, and the grandchildren are left with the emotional rollercoaster. I may not make sense but I am trying to accomplish going thru my things so that it makes it easier on them later. I have had my will done, and my power of attorney done, and all the children knows what I want. My advice is spend the time with your loved one. Even if its a phone call. Check on them daily. It makes me cry sometimes to hear there voices but I would rather get cry than not hear from them. Let the past go... Live for the present, and to the fullest.
I have lung cancer, I did the chemo it didn't work for me.. I did radiation it helped me breath better. After two years of having lung cancer it decided to move. I had two tumors removed from my head by a lazer radiation. Dr said they may come back. I have my good days and bad days. My doctors keeps the pain away and yet I am not a zombie. They took my license, which actually I agree with. I have shakes like parkinson disease.I am a strong women who is not giving up. I want to give back to other cancer patients that just don't know what to do. I want to give other families that chance to cherish the new memories... Don't have any...then make the time to have them. Don't let your love one go one day with out telling them you love them. Believe me I look forward to everyday to hear those words of encourgment. I don't have anyone home with me. I do things myself when I can. Sometimes I am asked lets do this, or lets do that, but in truth I don't want to cuz I am tired, or the weather is to hot and I can't breathe well outside... Stand behind your loved one and show them you support them. They need to know this. Don't think that its automatic that they know cuz its not always true.
I am still wanting things, like I told my husband .... I am going to my daughter's for a week in Mississippi, and then to my other daughters for a week in Denham Springs, La. and when I get back I expect my porch to be built. I live in a trailer and at night its cool enough to sit outside but I want to be able to sit on my porch and on my swing. The time away from him will help him as well. Its hard, tough, whatever you want to call it when you know your losing your best friend. He never goes anywhere, I have been encouraging him to go out and have a drink with some of his friends, he needs to get out to refresh himself. We live in as small town in the country so everyone knows everyone, and everything.
Am I wrong to try to help them along... I don't believe I am. It helps me knowing that they don't have to go thru the agony as much.
Tery50