Intercourse & Pregnancy post Trachelectomy

I had an abdominal radical trachelectomy last September at age 33.  My husband & I had been trying to conceive for nearly 2 years before I was doagnosed with cervical cancer.  Now I believe that our lack of success was at least in part due to the fact that my body was not healthy. Now that my surgery is over, we are trying again.  No success yet, but I cling to hope.

 My biggest hurdle has been that intercourse can be painful.  Tampons are also painful.  I've tried discussing this with my gyn/onc, and his big solution was try some tylenol.  I am grateful that I am now cancer free, but so frustrated that the doctors don't seem to care, or really know what to do about the pain.  It certainly isn't improving my chances to conceive when I am avoiding intercourse, and it isn't healthy for my marriage either.

Has anyone else experienced this?  If so, what have you done about it?  I would appreciate any advice.

I have my trachelectomy 2 years ago this September. We are also trying to conceive. I'm 34.

I do still have painful sensations if I insert a tampon too quickly or if my husband enters too quickly or pushes too hard. I spoke to my doctor, who explained that this may not totally subside because the tissue that is making contact is and will likely remain sensitive.

My husband and I have had very frank conversations about what needs to happen to eliminate the pain - i.e. not ramming up in there like a battering ram. It takes some concentration and some getting used to, but it is soooo much better than not have sex at all. Now the sensation is mostly uncomfortable at times, usually at the beginning of sex, but subsides easily and quickly.

I can't offer any other solutions except to do what you can to control the factors that you have control over. I know this probably isn't what you are hoping to hear, but at least it is something.

Keep me posted. We've  been trying to get pregnant for about a year, although there are some external stresses that around for about 6 months of that. I have an appointment with my doctors in September, and will ask for a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist - my OB/GYN said she would give me a recommendation after 6 months of trying, but we've waited the full year anyway.

Good luck!