im 12 and lost my dad

please can i have some emotional support i am 12 and lost my dad i came to this sight for support and to see if anybody knows how i feel

I'm so sorry to hear of your dad.  I know a little how you feel but can't fully because it's about what memories you had with your dad and what specifically you miss about him.  It's a very hard time now and it's ok to be sad, it's a normal feeling.  Remember you are and always will be a part of him.  I bet when you think about what to do at times, you can still hear him in your heart.  Take some time to be sad and then go out and make him proud.  I wish you all the best and remember he will always be with you in your heart.

Justin,

 Please know that I am thinking of you, probably from across the map!!! 

I lost my Dad to a rare asbestos cancer 6 years ago.  Indeed, it was the saddest day of my life.  Dad's are special people, especially to sons.  Please know that the sadness does leave you and it is replaced with all the good memories you shared together.  I look back now, 6 years later and still VERY MUCH miss him and wish he was here, but I will ALWAYS have the memories that I cherish.  

I found out that it helped me to keep a journal of my feelings and writing down the the good  memories, funny stories, or silly things we did together.  Now when I read them, I laugh and laugh and I don't have to worry about ever forgetting!!!

I can't promise it will not feel worse in the near future, but I can PROMISE that there is a light at the the end of the tunnel and will get better!!

 

Debi

i am sorry about your dad.i  have the best memories with my dad he was the coolest person everybody liked him he was funny and silly and teased me all the time..my favorite memory of him and the one i admire the most is fis fight for life his fight to try and stay hear to watch me grow up..my mom told me to keep a journal but i haven't done it yet i guess i am just not ready..thank you for getting back to me

i did this on my moms name

 am sorry about your dad.i  have the best memories with my dad he was the coolest person everybody liked him he was funny and silly and teased me all the time..my favorite memory of him and the one i admire the most is fis fight for life his fight to try and stay hear to watch me grow up..my mom told me to keep a journal but i haven't done it yet i guess i am just not ready..thank you for getting back to me

 am sorry about your dad.i  have the best memories with my dad he was the coolest person everybody liked him he was funny and silly and teased me all the time..my favorite memory of him and the one i admire the most is fis fight for life his fight to try and stay hear to watch me grow up..my mom told me to keep a journal but i haven't done it yet i guess i am just not ready..thank you for getting back to me

Justin, I am sorry about your dad. My husband is battling the same cancer your dad had and I have a 9yo son who is his shadow. I just want you to know you are not alone. You and your mom have eo now. You both lost a big part of your life and need each other. Let her in... and be there for her too. If you are having a bad day, she probably is too. Getting thru this together will make it easier. She loves you and I'm pretty sure you love her. (she and I have been talking thru this message board and we have alot in common)... Just be honest with each other and you will get thru each milestone of your life together. Your dad is watching over you and you will be ok.

Justin,

I am so sorry to hear you lost your Dad, it sounds like he was the coolest Dad ever. I lost my Dad five years ago to leukemia, it too was the saddest day of my life. There is never a day that I don't think about him. He was the kind of Dad that would tease me too and get down on the ground and wrestle with you, he turned out to be an awesome grandfather too to my three girls. My youngest daughter was around your age when my Dad lost his battle and  she too had a very hard time acepting he was gone but what helped us most was just simplying talking to each other, listening really listening to each other. We also kept journals and put special pictures of my Dad to remember fun times we had together. My daughters and I also had a therapist someone to talk to that wasn't judgmental and could give us advice without us hurting anybody's feelings, it did help a lot, you might ask your Mom about this. My girls went to a young people's group that had recently lost loved ones, this helped because they were kids their own age that had went through the same thing, it's amazing how complete strangers can help us in such a private matter. Hospice has  such groups, have your Mom check to see if there is one in your area. I hope this helps and I will say a special prayer for you and your Mom. Take care, and know the people on this site do care and we are here for you.

Sheryl

Please be assured you are not alone and your dad is by your side. When we are deep in grief we cannot always cope with the sorrow that overwhelms us. I lost my dad very unexpectedly when I was young. 35 years later I still miss him but time makes it more bearable.  Remember the fun times and laughter and know you are not alone.  mms

On 8/13/2009 justin1997 wrote:

please can i have some emotional support i am 12 and lost my dad i came to this sight for support and to see if anybody knows how i feel