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My boyfriend and I have came to this site numerous times to keep up to date on new medicines and break throughs. His screen name was Guitarman.

My bofriend passed away yesterday. He was such a fighter and I'm so proud of him. Each day that he won his battle I saw a man with determination to win this battle against this monster. Initially he was give 2 to 3 months to live without treatments and the max of 10 months with treatment. He lived nearly 2 years.

In those two years he was able to see his granddaughter born, he was able to be around family and friends. We traveled to Chicago several times for his treatments, and he flew to Germany at least 7 or 8 times.

Perry and I were just friends when he was initiall diagnoised. As time went by he and I fell in love. In the begining he said before he left this world he wanted one wish to happen. To be in love again. I didn't intend to fall in love, I was there for him because he was there for me when my sister passed away with cancer a few years prior.

Funny how the Lord works. He got his wish. I feel the Lord put us together for a reason. It gave Perry a drive and a stronger Will to fight the monster. Perry also developed a awesome relationship with the Lord. I seen so many changes throughout his battle and he became the man I'd always dreamed of having. He was kinder, more loving, he became less involved in self and actually thought of others before himself. It kills me inside to think he's gone, but I know he's in good hands.

For all of you who are fighting the monster and for the caretakers and loved ones I'd like to give you a little advice. Take advantage of everyday you have. Laugh, cry, share long talks, just hold hands, do anything to add  to those special memories so if the day comes to say good bye you have those memories to rewind and make you laugh.

I loved my man. But he'll never really be gone. He lives in my heart and will always live there.

God Bless Each of you.

I remember reading posts from Guitarman when I first found this forum. Very sorry to hear of his passing, yet good to know he's taken the journey to the other side where there is no physical sickness. I am struggling to get hospice for my mom - we are having issues because she is on dialysis and medicare wants to consider that life saving measures instead of dying comfort care. My mom too was given 3 months and that was back in August 08 so I know what you mean by feeling grateful for the time with him - I feel the same about my situation.

 Thank you for sharing your story & blessings to you!

Angela

On 8/27/2009 pooprecious wrote:

My boyfriend and I have came to this site numerous times to keep up to date on new medicines and break throughs. His screen name was Guitarman.

My bofriend passed away yesterday. He was such a fighter and I'm so proud of him. Each day that he won his battle I saw a man with determination to win this battle against this monster. Initially he was give 2 to 3 months to live without treatments and the max of 10 months with treatment. He lived nearly 2 years.

In those two years he was able to see his granddaughter born, he was able to be around family and friends. We traveled to Chicago several times for his treatments, and he flew to Germany at least 7 or 8 times.

Perry and I were just friends when he was initiall diagnoised. As time went by he and I fell in love. In the begining he said before he left this world he wanted one wish to happen. To be in love again. I didn't intend to fall in love, I was there for him because he was there for me when my sister passed away with cancer a few years prior.

Funny how the Lord works. He got his wish. I feel the Lord put us together for a reason. It gave Perry a drive and a stronger Will to fight the monster. Perry also developed a awesome relationship with the Lord. I seen so many changes throughout his battle and he became the man I'd always dreamed of having. He was kinder, more loving, he became less involved in self and actually thought of others before himself. It kills me inside to think he's gone, but I know he's in good hands.

For all of you who are fighting the monster and for the caretakers and loved ones I'd like to give you a little advice. Take advantage of everyday you have. Laugh, cry, share long talks, just hold hands, do anything to add  to those special memories so if the day comes to say good bye you have those memories to rewind and make you laugh.

I loved my man. But he'll never really be gone. He lives in my heart and will always live there.

God Bless Each of you.

 

We have recently gotton Hospice into help with my Mom Geri and they have been a tremendous help. All the equipment we needed and kind a commpassionate nurses and Social workers who are available 24 hrs a day I called at 3am in the morning and had a nurse there at 8am.They have spuppllied a bad, medication and especially loving care.Mom was doing fairly well until she was put on Interferon/Avastin. I gave her 3 shots which brought her blood counts down so low that not even 2 units of blood helped. It sad to see Guitarman go but I really think 2 years is about the norm for stage 4 Rcc .I am thankful for the 2 years of extra time we too were told 3 months at the most.

please dontsay so .My wife is also fighing with RCC tumor and she is only 26 yrs and we just got married just before 6 months. she is brave and a good fighter .She will win this game.

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