Caregivers,the choice should be the patients

  I have read several messages on other boards as well as this one,where caregivers say they "allow" a certain pain med or dosage for a patient.Too deny a cancer patient any med or as much as needed is just cruel.You don't know the pain we suffer nor do the Drs.You may think you do but you are a bystander,we own the pain.Many worry about addiction,which makes no sense at all and others want us to be lucid and not "spaced out" to spend more time with you,which is one of the most selfish things I have ever heard.It is our call,have we not suffered enough?The least we deserve is to spend what time is left pain-free.If you are unlucky enough to one day have cancer then,and only then,will you be qualified to make the decision and I can assure you,you will be grateful to be "spaced out".I am stage 2 however I take Oxycontin,Oxycodone and Dilaudid every day and I am not ashamed and addiction is the least of my worries.I deserve to have some quality of life that cannot be achieved without adequate pain control.