Not much time left

My husband's oncologyst told me today that if the Eribuitux treatment doesn't start showing up as a rash, he execpts that my husband will die within 4 - 6 weeks.   I know that GOD is the only one that has the exact knowledge and that DR only have an idea from past experiences.    What I am looking for is information on what to expect to happen during the end stage of life.  Until my husband signs off that he will not take any more treatment, hospics can not be called in to assist me.  I would appreciate any informaiton or links that someone has found to be useful.

The information conveyed by your oncologst was once thought to be true, but has since been refuted.  In fact, my brother with stage IV inoperable rectal cancer did not get any kind of a rash on Erbitux and was able to have a colon and liver resection after 8 cycles of FOLFOX and Erbitux. 
Is there anyone else out there who can give examples to refute this also?

 

 

Sorry to hear about your husband. My husband was diagnosed Feb 2 2009 with stage 4 stomach cancer. Many chemo treatments had to take 8wks break from chemo he was getting to thin & weak so had to get strength back to continue chemo. Had a good 2 mths. off he felt better even went away on vacation to see all his family in Sept. Was supposed to restart chemo on Oct 5th but he did not feel good so chemo was cxl'd he  was retested and was told on Oct. 10th that there was nothing else that could be done and he may have 1 month. left. He was in hospital for 3 days came home with hospice and he passed Oct. 16th. I am still in shock how fast he went because Sept. he looked and felt good.  The end started Oct. 7th when he asked me to bring him to hospital he could not keep nothing he ate or drink down. He went in for pain & vomiting that's when we were told it was the end and he only lasted 9 days.  He fought this cancer for 8 mths. he was a fighter but it took over. My husband is missed dearly but I know he has no more pain. That's the only thing that will get me through this. We just celebrated our 33rd anniversary in Sept. so I have a lot of great memories. Hospice was great but it is still very hard on us to see our loved ones leave us. It's a sight I will never forget. Prayers for your husband & you....

 

My heart goes out to you and your family for the loos of your husband.  My father has been diagnosed w/ colon cancer which has now spread to his bones...My mom is trying to be strong and we are encouraging her to work.  My siblings and I are trying to help...which is very hard to watch your dad fade away...He keeps on trying treatment but is not getting stronger...Don't know how to talk to him about what he wants out of life?  He is so weak he can not stand on his own anymore?  Any suggestions?

Hi, I know this a hard time for your family. I went through this with my father and my husband was diagnosed in Sept. with rectal ca and is undergoing chemo and rad. treatment. The one thing I would suggest is that if he wants to talk about dying or getting things in order try and do it. I was'nt strong enough to talk to my dad when he wanted to talk about dying I would change the subject. That is my only regret. This may be the only time you have so talk... remember the good times, laugh and cry together,If you need to forgive each other do it now. This is the time that families need to come together.To get close to our creator.