On 10/15/2009 movinnurse wrote:
I'm so sorry you have been put in this position. It's tough to deal with in the best of cases....to not have family support makes it so much worse. Know that lots of us keep you in our prayers. Your job will be to advocate for your husband and support his decisions, not those of others around him. Those of us in healthcare see a much more realistic picture; we know the positive/negative of this horrid disease. Sometimes I wish I only knew what the doctors tell me....
Amen to that. I would give almost anything not to know what I do. However at times I am thankful to know it is a help to his care( my other half).
In regards to the 1st message many of us battle this fight, I am to a point doing the same. I have to admit not to tthe extreme you are. It may be time to let your mother-in law in on some facts of cancer caregiving. It will be very hard but you should tell her you have to do something and put her in charge of his care for a day or 2. Let her see the realities of what you as a couple are going through. She is naturally going to be angry her son is sick and she cant fix it. She also has to see your pain right now she is lashing out at the only thing she has been allowing herself to focus on her anger at you has allowed her to deny the real thing she should be angry at the disease. Good luck and know that you are not alone many out there are fighting this to. Milly