At my wits end

My daughter has colon cancer with mets to liver and lungs. She is nearing the end of the chemo treatment and is doing very well physically. Her attitude is good and she is very positive....is on the budwig diet and takes other supplements to boost her immune system. As her mother I have a huge problem which is her oh so selfish husband and son. They seem to do everything they can to make her life as stressful as they can. Her husband is very moody, selfish and whining...moans about having to go to work, moans about money, about meals, weather, the kids etc etc. Her son is 17 and does nothing to help her,he won't get up for school, can't get a job, won't help around the house, argues all of the time. I stay with her to help when she has the chemo treatments and it hurts me to see how they behave.  I won't butt in as it could make matters worse. I don't know what to do to try and make them understand that she is very unwell and needs support rather than the stress they put on her. I want to wrap her up and bring her home with me and take care of her. This is very hard for me as her Mum. I feel as though I hate them for what they are doing to my lovely girl, it's bad enough she has this evil dis ease without having to endure the wretchedness of her husband and son.   Any advice would be appreciated.

Clarabelle

After reading your message, as a mom of two daughters, and a grandma of eleven grandkids, I really understand your situation.  Once I turned my challenges over, and let God take charge, things will change.  Prayer also helps, so if you belong to a church family, ask to be put on a prayer chain.  I think, as mom's, we will always want the best for our children.  My husband has leiomyosarcoma, a very rare cancer with no cure.  It spreads very easily, and will metatisis to anywhere in the body, for it is carried through the bloodstream.  His daughters never come visit, or call, unless they need something, mainly money.  I feel so sorry for my husband.  These girls are very moody, and selfish.  They are my step daughters.  I can't say anything, but it does hurt to see them treat him in such a selfish way.  I will keep you in my prayers, and hope that your daughter's family will see the light, and help when they can, with a great positive attitude.  Take care.