Hi possumvalley, I just joined this site specifically to reply to your posting. I found it this morning while searching around the internet. I hope you can print this out to let your husband read. Since I don't know his name, I'll call him John.
Hi John, my name is Kathy and I live in Florida. I'm 37 years old and just had the Whipple on August 31st....so I'm about 10 days ahead of you. Do not worry too much about sinking into depression - it happens and is perfectly normal. There are so many days (too many) when it feels like you'll never be normal again. I know, because I've had those days too. I've had setbacks myself. As a matter of fact, Ambient Nursing came out to my home today to hook me up to a feeding pump because I'm having increased nausea upon eating.
The biggest lesson I have learned is to not let the pain get out of hand. I hope your surgeon as prescribec Oxycodone for you. Not only will it help with pain, but it also helps with the depression. As they told me from the beginning, don't worry about becoming addicted - we'll deal with that later. And it's true. That is the "least" of your worries. Take the painkillers, and take them as often as you can. If he hasn't prescribed it by now, ask for it in liquid form to be given through the J-Tube. It acts within seconds and lasts the longest. I assure you this will help with the depression as well.
Those danged drainage tubes really suck, don't they (no pun intended) LOL. But don't fret about that because they "will" be removed eventually. And believe it or not, it doesn't hurt at all when they come out! I came home with 2 drainage tubes. After a while, the surgeon removed one and I was left with the other one. But it was eventually removed - and yours will be too. It's not forever. Just remember that. As hard as it is to go through, you "must" tell yourself that "it's not forever." I would be willing to bet money on the fact that in 2 weeks from now, you will be feeling 50% better than you do today.
I'll also share another tip I learned: I take anti nausea (25mg of Promethazine) and anti spasm (20mg of Dicyclomine) about 30 minutes before I eat a meal. Unfortunately I learned that trick a little too late and ended up dropping too much weight, which is why my doctor is bulking me up quick with these feedings through the tube right now. But when you do start eating, make sure you have those medicines handy.
And as you have heard before, everyone progresses at different rates. You are not going to be an 80 year old man, rocking in a rocking chair somewhere with drainage tubes coming out of your belly and being fed through the feeding tube. You "will" heal from this....and you are within weeks now of starting to feel better overall....I promise.
Possum: Of course he can't work at this point. I'm going to be out for at least another month myself due to this setback. I don't know of anyone that has returned to work at under 2 months post Whipple. They say you can expect one month of recuperation for every hour in surgery. So if his surgery was 8 hours, expect 8 months before he really feels normal again. They say this surgery is one of the hardest surgeries for the human body to endure, and I believe them! I don't feel too much like loving my husband either because I don't feel well. Thank God for loving spouses. It sounds like you are as caring, loving and concerned for your husband as my husband is for me. I couldn't get through this without him.
So, those are my words of encouragement. If you want to meet me and my family & friends, you can visit my Caring Bridge site: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/kathyjcochran
You'll even see pics of my belly post-Whipple, that I'm sure will look quite familiar.
I wish you guys the absolute BEST, and will keep you in my prayers (as John and Possum) *smile*
Take care,
Kathy