Wedding Vows Renewed

Some of you may remember that about a month ago I posted that my husbands MRI in September showed new growth even while being on Temodar.  The oncologist then put him on a daily dose which is now 100 mg.

This past week, he was very adamant that our vows be renewed.  He speaks daily of November 11th being the day I will have to accept that his fight is over...I know no one knows when their final day is, but it is becoming very painful to hear him try to make me accept that he is tired of fighting when nothing seems to be working, in fact, he loses more memory and mobility each day.

On October 27th, we headed to Niagara Falls, Ontario and on the 28th we renewed our vows in a little chapel in a very private ceremony.  It was the most beautiful relaxing hour we have had since his diagnosis July 08.  I could hardly contain myself when he started crying into my shoulder as the minister said a special prayer for him.  it should be noted that this was not our anniversary.

Now to move on

Donna

((((DONNA)))) (those are hugs.)

Keep on loving and breathing.

Sarah

Hello Donna,

I think that is wonderful that you two renewed your wedding vows. I have been to Niagara Falls, it is a beautiful place to renew your vows and create new memories.

I understand how difficult it is to know that treatment has stopped, you feel helpless, but you know you have to honor his wishes. Jay also requested stopping chemo because the last dose he had nearly killed him, he needed blood and platelet transfusions and was hospitalized for 2 weeks.

Although the treatment stops the fight is not over. Since Jay has stopped chemo he has started eating, his seizures are under control, and he has less headaches and says he feels better.

We just enjoying spending time together each day and I continue to pray for a miracle and a cure to this terrible cancer.

Take care,

Lori

I got tears in my eyes as I read your message.  God bless you both.  Jeanne

OMG Donna, what a loving relationship you have there. 

Another Donna, Rob's wife

What a beautiful thing you two have done. You will be so glad that you did this. I cried reading about it. 

I lost my husband April 3rd of this year and he never talked about not making it. He thought he was going to beat the level 4 gbm right up to the day that he could not walk or talk. I feel like I lived a double life because inside I knew that he was not going to make it. He gave it everything he had and kept a positive attitude right up to the very end.

There is no easy way to live through your loved one having something as horrible as a gbm. I am still so so angry with cancer and with chemo and with the fact that I have lost the love of my life.

If you have not done it, please make videos of the two of you together. That I did and it is the most comforting thing that I have from my husband now. My husband told me he loved me and placed his hand on my heart and told me that he would always be right here with me in my heart. That is the only thing that gets me through these difficult days of missing him so much.

Many hugs and prayers sent your way.

-Diana 

What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing something so private with all of us on this site.

Holly

On Oct 30, 2009 7:13 AM anotherdayinparadise wrote:

Some of you may remember that about a month ago I posted that my husbands MRI in September showed new growth even while being on Temodar.  The oncologist then put him on a daily dose which is now 100 mg.

This past week, he was very adamant that our vows be renewed.  He speaks daily of November 11th being the day I will have to accept that his fight is over...I know no one knows when their final day is, but it is becoming very painful to hear him try to make me accept that he is tired of fighting when nothing seems to be working, in fact, he loses more memory and mobility each day.

On October 27th, we headed to Niagara Falls, Ontario and on the 28th we renewed our vows in a little chapel in a very private ceremony.  It was the most beautiful relaxing hour we have had since his diagnosis July 08.  I could hardly contain myself when he started crying into my shoulder as the minister said a special prayer for him.  it should be noted that this was not our anniversary.

Now to move on

 

Donna

That is wonderful Donna.  My husband and I are going to renew our wedding vows.  In Oct 2005 I was diagnosed with adrenal cancer which was invading the main vien into my heart.  On 18th November 2005 I had open heart surgery and had my left adrenal gland, kidney and tumour removed. Two years ago I was diagnosed with lung and liver cancer and was put on Mitotane, I am coping with 2500mg a day. On the 13th October this year I had an operation at the Royal Liverpool Hospital (Miss Alison Waghorn did the surgery and she is a fantastic consultant) as they found another tumour on my right adrenal gland.  I asked my consultant how long did she think I had left and she told me three to nine months and the reason they were doing the operation was to give me better quality of life.  The operation went well and I asked the question again, she told me I am not typical text book and that I should not be here today, so she said to keep thinking positive and be strong as I have always been and I do not and never have thought I was or am going to die, she seems to think this has helped.  I go on Wednesday to see my oncologist to see if he will be doing chemo, fingers crossed.

How did you go about renewing your vows?  Did you do it through the net or at a travel agent?  I would love to go to Italy, but have no idea what to do.

I will prey for you and your husband.

Jeanette

I pray that you begin a new chapter of blessings and healing together.  You will be "ONE" no matter where things go.

Blessings and love,

janni