My mom had the whipple sept.8, 2005, ICU only 24 hours, hospital stay of 10 days. She had the morphine drip, but it played funny games on her mind, so had to be removed. She did quite well in the hospital, and did well afterwards until about november, when she started her chemo & radiation treatments. They have just about done her in. Had a PEG tube inserted in December, she was going in to have her esophogus looked at & stretched, as she had a small narrowing there, and it was decided that the PEG tube be put in at the same time, as she was not able to keep anything down, eating was null, drinking was null, kept getting dehydrated. She has lost a total of 74lbs since diagnosed last spring/early summer. She had the head of the pancreas, the duedom, gall bladder removed, 12 lymph nodes, which of 1 was diseased. She just spent a week in the hospital to try and get her squared around, and some calories in her. She is still on the feeding tube at home now, 24 hours a day, can be removed if she goes out, which she doesn't. It's been a very rough road for mom, and right now, we all feel it's more mind over matter to get herself going. I've been told this a long, long, recovery, and I keep telling her that. Giving her encouragement. I give her "2" week goals, baby steps. The first "2" week goal was that she would be able to start eating just small bites of things, and she has, and now her second "2" week goal is by this friday, she will not need her "bowl" {for nausea & vomiting} as a crutch, and it's been almost a week now since she has had any vomiting. I've got to come up with another "2" week goal, and I think it will be her being able to walk the hallway of where they live more. She is very weak, and we as well as the home care nurse tell her that if she doesn't get some exercise with the muscles that she hasn't used for months, she won't get stronger. She walked twice yesterday, which I'm so excited about.
Janice, just be strong, as hard as it may be. Your Mom will need every ounce of support you have, as well as your friends & family. It's a tough road, but as I keep telling my mom, she has so much to look forward to, my youngest will graduate from college in April, and will probably be engaged to be married soon. And I tell her, and I know this may sound mean to some folks, but mom & I have such a unique relationship, as many mom's & daughters have, but I told her, hey lady, you're the mom, you're supposed to be taking care of me, your kid. It made her smile.
My prayers & thoughts are with you & your mom & your family, please stay in touch, you're gonna have your weepy moments, I did, or as I called them, my melt downs. But you know, I cried like a baby after the surgeon came out and told us she was ok. She was in surgery 9 hours, and I was just so relieved that she was in there that long, because we had been told that if anything else looked suspicous, he wouldn't put her thru this type of surgery. And this is MOm's second round of cancer, 41/2 years ago she had stage IV melanoma in her foot, and had that plus 32 lymph nodes removed.
Once again, my thoughts & prayers are with you.
Lynne