Daughter's Death By Unknown Primary Cancer At 23

Trying to deal with the death of my youngest child has been devestating. Carcenoma of an unknown primary is one of the most frustrating and deadly cancers out there. I find it frustrating there are no "fund raisers" out there for that paricular cancer and would love to try and do something along those lines in my Daughters to be donated to the above cancer.

My name is Vinnie and I am very sorry to hear about your daughter's death. If I can do anything or be of support, please feel free to say so.

God Bless,
Vinnie

I am so sorry about the death of your daughter. I lost my son when he was 17 in a car accident. He didn't die from an illness, but that doesn't matter. No one understands the loss of a child unless you have been there. Mine was 26 yrs ago, but I still think about him. Not everyday like the first few years, but often enough. I would have dreams of him and wake up hysterically crying. Then one night I had the most conforting dream of him and woke up feeling the warmth of his arms around me and I knew he was okay. I know the pain you are going through and nothing or no one can ease that pain. It just comes with time, time, and more
time. Keep yourself busy, remember the wonderful times with her. It is never fair when it comes to a child. That is not the way life is supposed to be. Our children are supposed to bury us. Why, Why, Why?? How can the world continue when my child is gone. That is what went through my mind every morning when I woke up and heard the birds singing, the school bus coming, and the laughter of the children. If you need to chat, please email me whenever you want. Barbara119

Thank you for answering me...I feel as if I didn't make my point when I first created my message. The hurt and frustration is incredible and the visions of caring for her for so long just tear me apart..the loss of a chld like you said is just wrong...she was a police officer in a small town and worked with troubled kids..coached soccer and other sports for two different high schools...perfect health..had always taken care of herself as she played soccer from the time she was 6...how does someone so young and so healthy get a terminal cancer that is known to strike people in their 60-70 age....no one could figure it out..not the doctors....I thank you for listening...I am sorry about the loss of your son..I don't know what would be worse...a sudden devastion or a long painful one....either way, its the worst experience anyone could have to go through....Lynda

In my culture they say that losing one's child is the worse pain, losing the earth below your feet and the sky above your head. I haven't lost a child, I don't even have one, but I know how the pain is of losing someone due to an unexpected cause, an unfair one.. You have to hold on..she's out there watching all your of your family and takes care of you. She would like to see you smiling and be happy, remember her with good memories and not tears, be the person she loved and admired. The pain never goes away, but it goes to sleep slowly slowly. Dream of her and she'll be there hugging you. You have all our support. Be strong.

First let me say I am sadened to hear of your loss. I to have lost a young (24) daughter. I know that each day is a constant battle to just breath. Just take each day moment by moment. I am finding a little bit of healing now. I've decided that one of the things that my daughter loved (smiley faces) was going to be a sign that she says Hey Mom and I love you! everytime I see one. So all along the day I look for them . And amazing they are all around. So if you can take something so simple and make it apply to you daughter it may help just a little. May God bless you with many memories throughout you days. Take care and cherish your memories.
Dana (Jen's Mom) jennifergriffin.net

Dear Dana, Thank you for writing me with your encouraging words. I am also sorry for your loss. It helps to know that we're not alone, I guess. How long has it been since Jen has passed and how did you lose her? You don't have to answer. My daughter, Amanda's birthday is tomorrow, so its been a rough week...I am working through alot of things, but the pain just sometimes seems so unbearable...I am sure you can understand. Thank you again for writing. Take care and may God keep you strong. Lynda..Amanda's mom

Lynda,
Thank you for your response. My daughter Jennifer passed away 15 months ago of colon cancer at 24 year old. She was my only daughter. As we walk this same road I'm sure our feelings are much the same. Just wanting to have the little things back, a touch, a smile, I love you one more time. We just have to try to keep living with the beautiful memories they left us with. I also am raising her little boy so that help in some ways. But painful in other ways.
Just doing the best I can. I hope your days are filled with sweet memories of Amanda and just remember the love we shared with our girls will forever be in our hearts. Take care and may Gods arms be wraped around you. You may read Jen's story at jennifergriffin.net
Dana

I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer in 2001. I have had conventional treatments during this time and presently have no indication of this affliction-- after pet scan and colonscopy.(9/06)

I believe that blood stem cells have likely been a positive aspect of my survival and comfort.

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hi lynda.
i never logged on to any sites like this one before. When i read your msg about your daughter it touched a chord. your original question was whether anyone knew about fundraising for unknown primary cancers. although you live in the USA and i live in Ireland, you are the first person i have ensountered who thinks that in this day and age we should surly be able to learn more about unknown primary. i want to do everything i can. your daughter and my father should not have died, and especially not because of an inexplicable reason.
i am not looking for sympathy here but i want you to know how much i want to do sommething about this unknown primary cancer.
My father and i used to ring eachother every moring. although i lived approx 150km away i travelled home most weekends to see my dad and my mother. anyway the day i arrived home from my honeymoon, we were told that my father had cncer, but they didnt know where. fourteen months later he died, twelve hours after i had my first daughter ie his first grandchild. i know that you know what those fourteen months were like, only someone who has experirnce of this unknown primary can know the frustration and helplessness involved. i adorded my father and was his only daughter and i am devesated but do not want to sit aroundand do nothing about it. my daughter was born on the 22 aug at 3.15pm and my father died on the 23 aug at 3.15 am! now that i have a daughter i can empathise with you, if there is anything i can do to help raise money or awareness on this side of the world please let me know.
sinead