Hi Tia,
My mom had the whipple Sept.05, and is still recovering. She was in the hospital 10 days, had 29 radiation treatments, and had chemo at the same time, 2 weeks on, 1 off, 5 treatments total for the chemo. She lost 64 lbs. from the time she was diagnosed til now. She has just started eating again. She had stomach pain also. The esophogus was fine, and we {including her} decided that a feeding tube was necessary, as she was losing weight so rapidly, 18lbs. in two weeks was the final decision. And yes, the pain would worsen after she ate. They were attributing some of it to the radiation. Could find no real medical reason for it. She would also skip meals, and that was what got her into big trouble, losing more weight, and being sick from the treatments, just about did her in. The dr. admitted her to the hospital for a week in January to try and get her nutrition better, and the naseua untrol control. To make mom feel better, I gave her little goals to achieve. Two weeks at a time. It would make her smile, and it was something that was "ours" during all this. Mom still has her PEG tube, and she is starting to eat, hasn't vomited in quite awhile now, and just wednesday her dr. cut the nightly feedings down to 2 cans a night/8 hours, again, 2 weeks goals, she went from a 24hr feeding, and then to 12hrs, now down to 8 hours. She is starting to taste food again, starting to feel better. I won't say she is 100%, and she will never eat what she used to I'm sure. It's just good to see her improving. She actually sent me an email the other day, 1st time since August she's been on the computer. It made my day. Baby steps as I call it. And you are right, the whipple is the GRANDADDY of all surgeries, and I've been told it takes up to a year to fully recover from it. But it was her only chance.
Best of luck to you & your family.
Keep in touch, it's good to talk with others who are going thru the same ordeal, patients or care takers.
lynne