This is one of the biggest challenges! My mom, diagnosed July 17, adenocarcinoma, inoperable mets to liver, 61 yrs old, was and still is having a terrible time eating. She lost 11 lbs in 10 days then another 9 lbs in 7. She is being treated on FOLFIRINOX which is very tough but we force her to eat. It was to the point where we said, look I know you are scared to eat because maybe you will vomit and you will lose more fluids, but the reality is you need to try to eat until you think you are going to vomit. This is so important. The only way to get the weight up is to eat. So here is what worked for us...she was taking in 86 cals a day...now 3 weeks later she is taking in 2200 cals a day!!! I'll tell you it isn't easy though...
1. We figured that 85% of her eating problem was based on her mental state. She feels like she has no control over anything, but oddly making the choice not to eat and giving and excuse was a way for her to take control of something. She didn't even know she was doing it. We got her on an antidepressant (Remeron was first because it is supposed to help stimulate appetite. It didn't work for her at all and made her depression worse. We switched to Celexa)
2. Megace. 2x day out of a little medical spoon. She had no problem taking that. So we started pouring Ensure in it so she would start looking at Ensure like Medicine. This worked pretty well. 1 spoon of Ensure every hour. Ask your onc about the Megace and ask about Marinol.
3. Ensure. It's vile....but it works. 4 Ensure a day. Ensure Clinical Plus is 350 calories (Plus added potassium to keep his electrolytes balanced). We add 1 Tablespoon of Flax oil to each bottle and shake it up. (The flax oil adds 120 calories and of course is a great way to get the Omega 3, 6 9s in). We put a little lunch cooler with an ice pack right by moms bed. And when she wakes up in the morning she has her first Ensure. It is somethign that allows her to make the choice to reach for it and to feel accomplished when she finishes it. So before she even gets out of bed she has put a 470 calorie dent in the day!
4. Bites that matter. Don't waste time with pretzels and things that don't have tons of calories per bite.
1 Water cracker with 1 oz triple cream brie cheese (130 calories); a 3 oz espresso cup with Full Fat Yogurt that he can shoot down 82.5 calories; 1 T oil added to anything even the yogurt 120 calories; Dry milk powder added to a glass of milk; Whey Protein 230 calories--if he can drink shakes put some weigh protein in, Juice-8oz pear juice 150 calories and is also good for constipation FYI if that happens from the meds. (mom fluctuates with horrible constipation and then horrible diarrhea)
5. In home hydration. We had the Dr order in home IV hydration bags for our mom. She was severely dehydrated because of the lack of eating, drinking and diarrhea. The hydration allows her to not worry about drinking fluids and filling up her belly with liquid so anything she puts up to her lips has calories. It has been a huge help.
6. Diarrhea--Ask the doctor about the following
Questron Powder to bulk up stool; Tincture of Bella Dona with Phenobarv; Creon-pancreatic enzyme helps with absorption of food.
Try to incorporate some Kefir yogurt or any yogurt to get some probiotics into the gut.
I hope some of this helps...just wanted to list out the things that have worked for us (some days). Its always a challenge...this being one of the hardest.