Hi JB..
Yeah, we're new to this, too. Father in law was diagnosed with lung/lymphatic cancer in May. The docs suggested Hospice, but with that, dad would have to be just about done with treatments. Since he has continued with chemo, we get Home Health visits. It's not as much 'total care' like hospice, but he still receives services such as nurse visits, hygiene visits, physical and occupational therapy and wound care. Dad has Medicare and Tricare [for Veterans], and everything is covered. Your dad's doc will need to prescribe hospice/home health-- ask them to suggest a service, then interview the companies to see what they'll offer. We interviewed two companies. One representative did not even speak to Dad- she directed all questions to me and my husband, even though Dad was sitting right there. That crossed them off our list immediately.
Drop me a note if you want to talk more... in the meantime, a big hug from me-- being the caregiver SUCKS, no matter how much you love the person!
~Terry