Holidays

What are some ways others are dealing with the first holidays without their luvd one? I'm really struggling!

Nita

Hi Nita,

 I am in the same place as you, my mom passed away Oct, 17th and thanksgiving was the 1st holiday without my mom...

By my surprise, I got threw the holiday, but I have some wonderful, amazing friends that I spent the day with.. without them, I am not sure what I would have done..

But I remember a talk that my mom and I had shortly after she was diagnosised with cancer.. she told when the day came that she wasn't here with me, she wanted me to keep our traditions alive and enjoy my life and make her proud.. that is what I am doing...

Remember that family doesn't have to be blood family.. if you have a close friend or two, have them over... start new traditiions.. yes I know it is hard... but remember your loved one would want you to be happy and enjoy the days here!

My mom died Oct 1, 2010 and Halloween was her favorite holiday however that was easy since I have a 4 yr old to keep me occupied on that day. Thanksgiving was a bit harder since I didn't have my son (he was with his dad) but I managed to get thru it. Christmas will be the tough one for me.. and my dad. Like many moms out there mine was the glue that held our family together and with her passing I am reaching out for some glue and it isn't there. Like the previous post.. just try and start new traditions. If you went to your moms house for Christmas try having it at your house surrounded by family and friends. The prep work will keep you busy prior to your guests and the clean up will keep you busy after the day is done. That is my plan at least... trying to stay busy.

Good luck and best wishes to you!