My husbands testes

 my husband is complaining of a lump (i don't know if its soft or hard) and that the one is a little swollen.  he's had surgery on it.  and i would love to make him a doctors appointment and tell him to go, but men are very fickle when it comes to doctors, and they don't go until its too late.  so i'm asking for help on convincing my husband to just go already, get it over with.  because besides the testes problem, he has a history of high blood pressure in his family and his isn't the lowest.  damn men why can't you just go?

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Because unlike women they think if you ignore a problem it really isn't there.

Women attack it head on and get it over with, good or bad.

It can be so flustrating. It's because we care about them.

yeah i'm about to question his manhood "what are you chicken?"  "wussy"  in my experiance you questipon their manhood and they feel the urge to prove you wrong.  last resort lol

I wish I did have an answer for you. I do have cancer, though it isn't testicular, it is thyorid. For me, it was get going and get in there as soon as I noticed a lump in my throat that didn't go away after 1 week. I am not a hypcondriac, but I certainly wouldn't want to be told that if I came in sooner, they could have either saved some body parts or even something as trivial as my life. If caught early, not only can your life be saved easier, but it is by far cheaper! Not that I wasn't in right away, as I was. But after fighting this cancer for 7 yrs. now, know one has to tell me how expensive living with cancer is. I am far from cured and the current knowledge base of this cancer, I won't be cured. Oh, to have a cancer that did have a cure rate! Tell him to suck it up, stride in there like a man and walk out like a champion!

thank you, i will pray for you.  you are a very strong person.  may god bless you, and i hope that one day you will no longer have to deal with this horrid disease.  my mom had ovarian, and my grandpa had lung.  and i remember that pain, i pray you get better like my mom.  and that like her you will be a medical miracle and be cured.  god bless and good luck.

Hi Mrs Hale2010,

how did you get on with your hubby? I hope he has sought some advice from the doc, yea am a man and yea a little like your hubby, January I found a lump in my right testicle and put it off for a couple of weeks, it then flared up quite large, I swallowed my pride and went to the GP, this stage the doc wasnt to alarmed and gave me 3 week course of antibiotics, the lump went down after the second week and then well, I was well blessed. went straight back and he reffered me to urology dept and then the bad news, I dont wanna scare you.. was told it is cancer and admitted me that week, my right one as removed. I have now an appointment this week into Christies Hospital, cancer hospital where they are currently planning a combination chemo/radiotherapy as it has spread to my lymph nodes, scared yes.. but I know what it is coming to terms with it and wish now I had gone back a little earlier, the surgeon did say that he thinks he caught it before it got out of hand. please get hubby to get it checked a.s.a.p, seriously it can be life or death, I am pretty lucky as again consultant waspleased that he may have taken all away.

Take care and let us know how he is doing and push him hard to do it.

Mark