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by motherlove on Tue Apr 05, 2011 10:14 PM
my mum has not eating for 4 days now and doesnt want to, she has only about 100mls max 200mls to drink a day she turns white one min brown the next and yellow the next min, i know she is dying :( but it just puts tears in my eyes seeing her like this, how long can someone go on like this? please help
by heart_and_soul on Fri Apr 08, 2011 03:57 PM
I am so so sorry about your mum. :*(
Do you have hospice care? One of the nurses can tell you an estimate of how many hours or days away she is. Probably not weeks. You can tell by the shutting down of functions like bowel and bladder. It is amazing to me how long the heart and respiratory system go on though. On and on, with no fuel except what the body has stored. It's a survival thing, in case we were ever without, you know?
Believe that she can feel your care, and keep her comfortable, and keep pouring on the love day and night. When you look back on this time, this sacred space and transition, you will know that she knew only kindness in her passing.
Peace and light ~Sarah
by motherlove on Sat Apr 09, 2011 10:48 AM
dont have hospice care as she will die with family at home, i dont like seeing her like this, but then its hard for anyone let a lone only being 23yrs with both mum an dad dying of cancer at the same time thanks for what you have said it does help
by motherlove on Mon Apr 11, 2011 10:26 PM
my mum passed way this morning
by runninglucy on Wed Apr 11, 2012 03:01 AM
Dear motherlove - I am truly sorry for your loss. I pray for peace for you and your family. Know that your mother knew you were caring for her until the end. I am sure she loved you dearly.
My mother-in-law is without food for 8 days now and her passing is very near. It is a difficult time for us all, most difficult to watch her spouse of 60 years suffer right along with her. I almost wish for the end to come quickly because I am so so worried that he is not eating and resting as he should. I know that she would want him to take care of himself.
So you take care of yourself and your family and remember that your mother loved you, may you find peace in the love you held for each other and in the memories that together you shared.
by Rianna on Thu May 10, 2012 05:48 AM
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