Why do people fear death?

Because not everyone experiences what death is like. 

I no longer feel scared, in fact after loosing both parents just two years apart at the age of 67 and 66, I don't fear death anymore.   Why is that?  Asked myself that question so many times, my answer is. 

Why would two good people die from a horrific disease so young and so close together if, if they were not needed elsewhere?

They say you are more worried about who you are leaving behind. If your whole family is gone Im sure its not as bad.

67 is not that bad.   

On Aug 31, 2011 12:57 AM SisterofLMS wrote:

They say you are more worried about who you are leaving behind. If your whole family is gone Im sure its not as bad.

67 is not that bad.   

You have to be kidding me, surely?

67 is bad. Losing a whole family, well that's horrendous, more than bad. 

I would appreciate it if you would not belittle my feelings.

On Sep 08, 2011 12:47 AM Kurlysue wrote:

On Aug 31, 2011 12:57 AM SisterofLMS wrote:

They say you are more worried about who you are leaving behind. If your whole family is gone Im sure its not as bad.

67 is not that bad.   

You have to be kidding me, surely?

67 is bad. Losing a whole family, well that's horrendous, more than bad. 

I would appreciate it if you would not belittle my feelings.

Actually forget I said this.

Actually forget I said this.

The person who does fear death is often the one who does not see death on the immediate horizon..........

Even Christ suffered in the Garden.........

Dave oudave83

ps...I meant to say, "The person who does NOT fear death...........dave oudave83

On Jul 22, 2011 10:51 AM dorne wrote:

On Jun 26, 2011 8:03 PM SHELLYNDAVID wrote:

I don't know why most people do fear death but since i have been through at least three previous near death experiences and now have the beast of cancers (esophageal cancer) i am in no way afraid of dying. I guess i turned that way years ago when my daughter, since birth had heart problems and at the age of 1 1/2 had her heart removed and worked on and put back in her and the surgery was 14 hrs. Long. During the surgery which i waited outside the operating room doors the whole time, they had a problem with her and had to call for a machine to put on her and zap her back to life. I guess they didn't have one in there that would work on someone at the age of 1 1/2. But anyway the guy bringing the machine went to the wrong operating room and the doc had to go around looking for where he was. I was freaking out and was breaking down. I left the hall went to another floor found an empty room and went in it and broke down, a nurse came in and gave me some comfort about it and i don't know after that happened i have just never thought about death the same. The doctor did save her but said she had about 10 years to live. She is 31 years old today married and is doing fine.

Now if someone says they are dying or their relative is dying i just try to convince them it's ok. It is ok to die, it is a natrual part of life and i know people are so busy worring about living longer, why? Have you really looked at the elderly people today. I just can't imagine living depentant on pills or medical devises until i fall over dead. Yes i have seen some live into their 90's and were dependent only on theirselves. That is supper, i can't imagine being so old it hurts to wake up and start another day. I can't imagine being in my 80's and getting something that needs a surgery, but they won't do it because of your age so just take these pain pills until you die you'll be just fine. People should be more worried about how they are physically before they get old than dying.

 now don't get me wrong i'm not out there trying to die i have a fatal type of cancer but i will do everything i have to to stay alive. But if the time comes then it comes it's ok. I don't know if it would be a spiritual transition or absolutly nothing at all just like before you were born, either way there is no way you can change what happens afterwards. Now beleiving in god sure everyone should beleive in god, what do you have to lose? If your right about god then it will be very good thing for you, if you don't you don't even have a chance for it to be a good thing. Lets see in one hand i have a 50% chance of being right and in the other hand i have 0% chance right because if you beleive there is no god then there's nothing for you after death anyway so you can beleive that and if your right at least you were 100% right but if you are wrong i feel for you. But it's ok to die it's not a bad thing, it's just a natrual part of life.

Sure relatives, friends will grieve over your passing. I try to let all my friends, my kids, and relatives know if i pass it's party time, i want all of them to get together and have a party and talk about the good old days. I will not have a funeral, i will not have a wake or any other depressing service. And to make sure of that i am a whole body donor. They will get some ashes back but thats it. Lol

So what i say is live each day like its your last one, forget tomorrow, forget yesterday and make this day the best day of your life everyday. Peace & love forever

 

I have toldl my family i want my wake BEFORE I die!!!

If a bunch of people are going to get together with great food and friends and talk about how wonderful I was/am?

IWANT TO BE AROUND FOR IT!!!!!!

a celebration of my family and my friendships!!!

p.s. music woudl be good too I have already started picking some out

Now that is one cool Irish-like wake.....but better-you are alive to be a part of it...tad self-indulgent but why not......you can call it a party b/c a wake while alive may make people feel uncomfortable......everyone knows what is happening without calling it a wake...we have to be sensitive to the needs and feelings of those we leave behind.........

GO FORRRRRRRRRRRRRR ITTTTTTTTTTTTTTT  I love your attitude especially!!!!!!!!! and zest for life!!!!!!!!!!!!

In my prayers,

dave oudave83

ps....pick some rockin cool upbeat music............

Having been recently diagnosed, the thought of death, actually having my life end far earlier than I expected has brought up many emotions.  For me, like others has said, I really don't fear the event itself.  I fear and get emotional about those that this illness I have has affected.  Sure I don't want to go tomorrow, but I believe that in some way the hardships we have gone through no matter our age in this life have to lead us somewhere better. 

I just buried my father 6 weeks ago while he was at home in hospice, sat with him up until he died.  I view death as a new beginning.  I don't look at it as something to dread as if I were being tortured or the likes.  Regardless of the progression of all that's going on with me, at least I have time and the ability to leave this life with as much completed as I can. 

I used to think that I would always want to go with a heart attack or something that just takes me.  I don't have any cancer in my family and never expected for this to happen.  Yet I have to look at this as my chance to make as many things right as I can and be comfortable when ever that time comes.