Kelly:
I read your posting and think my mom has/is going through the same thing. In March of this year she was diagnosed with 2b cervical caner - she had not had a pap smear in over 10 years, so we were unsure how long the cancer had been growing. The doctors we initially went to treated us horribly because she was without health insurance. We never really received a concrete answer as to what her stage was, but they placed it at 2b.
A few weeks after diagnosis, they said her kidneys would be affected by treatment, so decided to put a drain tube (catheter) in her left kidney... so she has a catheter coming from the kidney through her back and a tube/bag. They started radiation, 5 days a week for a total of 25 initial treatments. She had 5 chemo treatments. She had to have 2 blood transfusions due to her blood count being to low and they continued to give her a chemo treatment. I think that nearly killed her. She just has not gotten much better since that last chemo treatment.
After her completion of these (by late May), they scheduled her for 2 internal radiation treatments - she stayed in the hospital for three days on each stay and had a device implanted that would deliver a regulated radiation amount. I think you mentioned you had this as well. After the second implant, they said the cervical caner was nearly dead, but wanted to continue treatments on the lymph nodes on her upper legs - she has not continued this.
She was having constant UTI/kidney infections due to the catheter bag and has gone to the ER twice over it. She is having horrible intenstinal problems, diarrhea, gas; it's just awful. She will sit on the couch and just cry from being in so much pain. Everytime she goes to the bathroom, it hurts her stomach and muscles from trying to go. It'll take 15-20 minutes for her to feel any better after trying to go. She's having uncontrolled bowel movements and waking up in the middle of the night peeing herself.
The last trip to the ER, they did all sorts of tests and nothing came back showing there was any type of blockage. It's just like the treatments have done permanent damage to her stomach/intestines.
I initially was thinking maybe the cancer was spreading, but then I came across this post and think this is exactly what is going on with her. She has lost about 30 pounds over the last few months and not gaining, although her appetite is slowly returning. I'm just scared that she will never return to a normal quality of life. I asked her today when she was going back to have the PET scan to see how the cancer has progressed/died, but she said she wouldn't do anymore treatments. She's been in so much pain, she's just over it all. We have so many medical bills, too, I think that's her main reason for not wanting to continue with treatments.
The only thing I have found to help her with her bowels is a Rite-Aid brand medicine called Senna. It is sort of like a fiber pill and helps her keep some what regular, but it's not a cure.
I hope things get better for you and her; it's just sad that the treatments end up doing more damage then what you initially have to begin with.