I know what you are going through. My mother was diagnosed in May, a week after my 25th B-Day on mother's day weekend! She is only 49 and she's an awsome person and I think that makes it even harder to deal with.
She had shunts put in first and then biliary drains, which seemed to slip down or get clogged up ever few days. When the drains weren't clogged they were moving to freely so she was dehydrated and in the hospital for that. She had radiation and chemo at the same time, following the mayo clinic protical which has been a sucess for some people. After all the scans following her first round they decided her cancer was not responding at all. They took her off the transplant list and pretty much just said sorry! She started a second round of chemo about 4 weeks ago so I guess we will keep our fingers crossed and see what's next.
I will tell you though, my mother has began taking mannatech. It is just a food supplement. It's a little expensive, but it has worked with people we know, and who can put a price on life? They have a website you can take a look. It's a local company to us here in texas and my family has been to the meetings and spoken to people who have used it and had great success. We first heard about it sitting in the hospital waiting room while mother was having a CAT scan. There was a lady next to us who's son was taking it. She gave us her number and her sons number he had liver cancer as well as lung and throat cancer. They gave him 9 months to live, he's been taking mannatech for 10 months now and is cancer FREE! It's great for all kinds of things not just cancer, pretty much my whole family is on it now.
Mom is set to have another scan in two weeks. I'll keep you posted.