Everything.. Diet, Spreading Prevention

I am 19 mos. out from Tx. for SCC at the base of my tongue. I went through pure "H.." and back and again. Seriously !! I have been having lots of probs. with gaining my weight back after losing 60lbs.. I can eat only foods with lots of gravy, sauces and so forth. And very little of that. Mostly Italian.. I am soory depresseed and worried about it coming back I cannot think. I have had very little support out here and have been under so much stress you would not comprehend.
I am not sure what all I need. I know some good friends that know and can relate with what I am going through would be invaluable for sure. I am so lost right. I am not anywhere close to the person I was and do not even really know who I am today at all.
I see some talking about eating Ice Cream is bad. If that is the case, I'm a dead dog. That is what I basically lived on for months and still eat tons of it. With a lot of Cheese Cake to go with it. I'm cooked Goose!!! UH ???
I worry my Doc to death about every little thing I feel or think. What am I to do ??
I cannot die yet. I have no children of my own and at 47, that is hard to handle. I want and need kids more than life.. But NO women want me after I tell them what I've been through. None!!!

Can anybody help ME !!!! Steven G.

Hi Steven.....take a deep breath and calm down. I can hear panic in your voice and there doesn't have to be. I can also see fear and confusion - and this can all stop. Take contol of yourlife from this moment on. The doctors have rid you of the cancer is that right? So now you have a chance to live differently and healthy to prevent anything coming back. Think of your body as being a car - it has now had a part removed and now you have to look after it - service it regularly and fuel it properly. Change your lifestyle by eating a healthy diet lots of fruit and vegetables is a must because they hold antioxidants which fight cancer cells. Buy a book on healthy eating you can put weight back on the healhty way. Remember you can eat what you like if you put it in a blender. So you can get all the nutrients you wish. I must say that diet plays a large part in cancer prevention. A bad diet is one of the causes of cancer as is smoking. Stress and negative thinking is not good either as it lowers your immunity - so do things that help you relax - start enjoying life with friends etc. Start practising in feeling a smile insdie you! You are only 47 and you are still young - and if you tell yourself 'NO women wants you' then that is what you will get. Whatever you feel you will be believe so positive thinking and feeling good about yourself is a must. No woman will wnat you if you are negative - the cancer is out your system now. Dont dwell on what you have been through - instead look to where you are going and what you want. Focus on the future not the past. You have a second chance now so live it and live it well. Worry and panic and fear are all negative so turn those feelings around. See a hypnotherapist perhaps and learn techniques in how to change your thought pattens, and a nutritionist if necessary. Anythiing is posssible and you have the power within you to change and feel fantastic. Just allow it to happen. I wish you all the best.
PS keep off the ice cream!
Christina