Mixed emotions

Hello,

My mom was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer with mets to the liver and bones on December 24 2010. She's been fighting since we've found out and done everything from chemo to radiation to a stage one clinical trial. Unfortunatly we are at the stage now that nothing is working and she's in intense pain everyday. I now am expecting my first child in November something my mom and I have looked forward to for a long time. The practical part of me knows she's in pain and will be better when she's with our heavenly father, but the selfish part of me wants her here when my child comes into this world.

Hello Corab:

Congrats on your new baby.  It must be bittersweet time for you.  Please don't fret, as your mom will be with you every second of every day.  You will feel her presence every day and your child will know her through you.  You can honor her by your love for your child

Oh, you must be feeling so overwhelmed! And, your feelings are completely understandable. Sounds like your mom knows the Lord and would be in a better place when she passes-and I'm sure she knows that too. So, don't blame yourself for how you're feeling. I'm sure it makes your mom so happy to know about your baby and that new life coming into the world. Also, don't hesitate to reach out for some support to get you through this time-maybe a support group or counselor? Lastly, while at Focus on the Family, I came across an article that may be of help to you athttp://bit.ly/IAxLR5. Just a thought. Well, know that my prayers are with you and your family. Blessings.

Dear Corab,

I understand how you feel. My mom is battling Staget 4 Breast cancer that has metasized to her bones in 09 and now is everywhere. I do not have any children because I wanted to start my career first but now I feel guility since my mom is not doing well and will not be around when I have my first baby. She told me before she got sicker that she wanted to see me get married or have a baby before she passed. Unfortantly the baby is not possible and she is so confused now that she is starting to not recognize people. It is normal to feel what you are feeling. I am sorry you are going through this.