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by DemAngel on Mon May 07, 2012 02:50 AM
It's been awhile since I have posted here.
My dad has Stomach Cancer with 2nd Liver Cancer. He is no longer on Chemo because it was no longer slowing the cancer. He was on 2 differnt forms before stopping. The ekie side effects no longer sounded worth it anymore since it was not working. It made his hands and feet crack to the point he could barley walk and couldn't hardly bind his fingers. Also food tasted like nothing. His hand & feet healed and got the taste of food back for awhile. But it didn't last =\
He has started to go down hill the last 2 months. His CEA is climbing fast now ....
2/10 - 6.4
2/23 - 8.5
4/10 - 16.3
5-4 - 44.6
He is deterating very fast now. He is barley eating anything now and not really drinking all that much either. He has a very weak heart also. It is only beating 30 beats a min. He gets out of breath just walking to the bathroom =( His doctor asked him tuesday if he wants Hospice to come in and he said no. My mom is caring for hiim.
I'm kinda numb at the moment to the pain. Have been for a good long time. Just sharing my story and ranting/letting out
To all of you out there yall are in my prayers.
by togawendy on Mon May 07, 2012 04:06 PM
this is so sad. how old is your dad? did he every have any surgery? maybe he will make a turn a round I believe in miracles. just keep believing
by Kelsey04 on Mon May 28, 2012 08:01 PM
My Nan has advanced stomach cancer and passed away six weeks after being diagnosed.. she went through the same stages where she wouldnt eat but still drink. Then she refused to drink and got out of breath just going to the bathroom. After that she was so weak she couldn't get out of bed and, at this point, she had about 4 days left. All you can do is be there for them throughout everything.. I sat with my Nan right until the end and even though she was sleep from 4 days until she passed.. I still spoke to her so she could hear me and so she knew I was there for her. The worst feeling in the world is to feel alone. My advice to you is just to be there no matter what. You only get one Dad (and in my case, Nan) so I hope that now she is looking down on me and happy that I was there for her and with her until the end
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by DemAngel on Mon Jun 18, 2012 08:51 PM
On May 07, 2012 4:06 PM togawendy wrote: this is so sad. how old is your dad? did he every have any surgery? maybe he will make a turn a round I believe in miracles. just keep believing
On May 07, 2012 4:06 PM togawendy wrote:
He has been battling since oct 2007. He has had surgeries in the past. There is no turn around for him now ;(
by DemAngel on Mon Jun 18, 2012 08:52 PM
I'm just updating on my dad. He is still here but I'm afraid his time is very short now. Hospice is now coming in 3 times a week. My mom is there everyday taking care of him. They brought in a hospital bed for him. He isn't strong enough to even get out of it now. He wanted to the other day and my brother was helping him but he only got is legs off the edge and he had to lay back down.
He is only eating a few bites a day now but my mom is getting him to drink some ensure (well not alot maybe half the bottle but thats better then nothing). He is only peeing 1-2 times a day. His legs have started to swell and now one of his arms has started as well. I've been told that his feet are so cold and turning blue. =( He sleeps most of the day, wakes up for very short periods. He knows who everyone is but time/date is past him now.
My mom told me yesterday that when your talking to him he will roll his eyes up in the back of his head. Kinda scares her. I looked it up last night and found mixed info. One thing said he could just fell asleep so fast he didn' close his eyes and that the eyes roll up when your asleep. I really don't know what to think of it. But I do know he is very weak and can't feed himself anymore. When he does what something my mom feeds him. But he can hold a water bottle to drink from.
I don't want him to go away but I also wish God would just take him, extend those steps and let him go home. ;( End his pain. It is so killing me to see him this way. But he doesn't complain he just keep saying don't worry I'm goin to get better and everything is going to be just fine ;(
I've been hiding all of my pain away, well some does escape from time to time but 99% of the time it's all hidden behind walls I have built to protect myself and the ones that surround me. No reason to make them indure my pain =| But I know those walls will crumble the very sec I get that call. And that I'm no really prepared for. I will just wait till that day is upon me. I did write a poem to God I will post it but I will pre-warn it will make you cry.
To all those here yall are all in my prayers .... <3
by muigi84 on Tue Jun 19, 2012 06:05 PM
I'm so sorry Nancy. Please advocate for better pain meds if he is no comfortable. I am also hoping for peace. I can only imagine how devastating this must be. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Please spend as much time with him as you can.
by tanforfather on Thu Jul 12, 2012 11:03 AM
I lost my father to cancer 2 years now .. I still cannot get over the pain of having lost him. I wake up in sleep and keep callin him aloud. It is tough. Worst part -what I remember most are not the best days of my life with him .. but the days when I saw him in pain in the ICU with tunes in throat and neck. I truly understand what you are going through. I am thinking as I type .. if your dad can spring back to life just like that .. the way I foolishly thought fo my own dad... we know it will not happen. Just stay there - you know you are by his side. He knows too... I wish you better times ahead.
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