My 45 year old husband had the surgery on 05/31/2012 and 06/01/2012. He had early stage adenocarcinoma arising from Barrett's esophagus. I don't think anyone can be completely prepared for this surgery. In my heart, and I am sure my husband feels the same way, I believe the surgery was the only way to give him a second chance.
God bless you both as you move forward.