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by martin529 on Wed Aug 22, 2012 07:22 PM
by greenlee on Wed Aug 22, 2012 08:15 PM
I am sorry to hear about your dad. It is difficult for us older people who have to deal with cancer it is tragic that a young person such as yourself should have to deal with cancer in your family at a young age. I will pray for you and your sister the God give you peace and grace for the situation you are having to deal with. Death is not easy for any age much less for a younger person. God seems to always provide people in our lives to help us get through the difficulties we face. Keep your eyes on Jesus.
by martin529 on Wed Aug 22, 2012 08:29 PM
by bestfriendmom on Thu Aug 23, 2012 05:39 PM
I can not imagine watching my parent dying at the age of 19 years old and having to worry about my 15 year old sister. I hope that you have family members to help you get through this difficult time. I lost my husband when I was 23 years and had a 3 year old son that I had to raise. If it weren't for my family I am not sure what I would have done. It was the hardest and saddest time of my life and a day doesn't go by that I don't miss him. I can tell you that the pain gets easier. You will move on with you life, you will fall in love, get married some day have children of your and and grow old. As you grow older the memories of your dad will become less painful and they will bring a smile to your face in the middle of the day when you remember something really special about him or something funny that he use to do. You and your sister are in my prayers.
by Kejnah on Sat Aug 25, 2012 02:49 PM
I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
by datla on Mon Aug 27, 2012 04:31 AM
On Aug 22, 2012 7:22 PM martin529 wrote: well its sad to me my heart and soul to just think about what my dad is going through he had cancer for well over 2 years now and he has tried everything just ask m self is this a dream or what i an only 19 years old my birthday just past and when i blew the candles i wished my dad never had cancer i just finished high school and my sister is 15 years old just thinking i have to raise my sister as if i was her dad my dad gave me everything now he is dieing right in front of my eyes each day he gets worste and worste and its like i cant do nothing about it every night now i just have to wait and its in gods hands now i just want other people to talk abd discuss about their own personal deathsin the family because this is my first death :(
On Aug 22, 2012 7:22 PM martin529 wrote:
How old is your dad?
Please look up http://cancertutor.com/ for alternative treatments. My dad has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and refused to do chemo. We have him on these treatment since 6/2012.
Hope it help!
by martin529 on Thu Nov 15, 2012 05:39 PM
by Kath67 on Thu Nov 15, 2012 06:13 PM
Martin, I was told by my Dr. as I took on this journey with my mother, that I have to take care of myself also, and to find a way to manage my stress or I would become Ill myself. so far I have managed, its tough to watch or be a part of this disease, because you feel helpless, and its a wait and see thing. My mom is just begining....I dont live close to her at all and all I can hope is that she do the right thing. I WISH I could be by her side like you were for your dad. but she also is alcoholic and has pushed everyone in her family away. she is in a different state all by herself. I went to be by her side and I watched her sickness lie to Dr.s, and so I interviened so that she could get the best care for her cancer, and she basically pushed me out the door for interfearing in her business. Be proud of your dad for the fighter he was. Be greatful that you were there to hold his hand and walk him to end. Family means everything, and its all we have. Just think how youd feel if you werent there. You got to do something I wont have a chance to do, and thats say goodbye. I think about that everyday. I can deal with her cancer, but alcoholism is a nasty nasty disease and its one fight that is hard to win.
I hope for the best for you and your sister. Keep your head up. and hang onto the good times.
by bestfriendmom on Thu Nov 15, 2012 06:13 PM
I am so sorry to hear about you dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
by lucky2Bhere on Sun Nov 18, 2012 06:00 PM
So sorry martin529 that you & your family have to go thru this very difficult time. My husband's Dad passed when he was only 16. That was 50 yrs ago. What doesn't break you makes you stronger. As said before, time will make it easier, you sound like you will make your Dad proud. He will always be watching over all of you. It may take years but you will remember the good times, & smile at the things that remind you of him. No one knows why these things happen, only God knows. I think it has made my husband a much better man. He is strong, compassionate, loving & giving. These events change our paths in life, but it is the path & lessons we were given. My prayers are for you, your Dad, & your family to find comfort & peace. God Bless you always! Candy
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