Partners even more likely than survivors to experience fear and worry over long term, study finds
by bella1985 on Sun Oct 28, 2012 11:55 PM
My name is Belinda, and my partner Andy has just started treatment for tonsil cancer. Even though all the doctors are very hopeful that it's completely curable, i feel i need some extra emotional support from people who have been in a similar situation.
The timing couldn't have been worse, we had just sent in our application for marriage at our local registry office, our daughter had just celebrated her first birthday and i had just found our i was pregnant with our second child when we recieved the diagnosis.
I'm finding it hard to stay emotionally strong for Andy, the muddle of hormones during pregnancy just make me want to cry all the time, and i know he doesn't need to see me in that sort of state during his battle.
I'm also finding it hard how to keep things as normal as possible for our daughter, and worry about how much harder normality with be as his treatment progresses.
And finally, amongst caring for our child, caring for him and our 2 dogs and cat, sorting out insurances so we don't lose our house and can pay bills and buy food. i'm finding it hard to find time for myself and the baby im carrying.
I don't drive, so its near impossible to get anywhere for outside support, family are around as much as they can be but distance is an issue.
If anyone has any advice on how to make things a tiny bit easier it will be greatly welcomed.
At the moment even some kind words to know others out there understand how i feel would be a godsend
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