colon cancer stage 4....help pls!! :((

my grandpa just recently was diagnosed with a colon cancer stage 4......the doctor just said that these damn cells had already been scattered in his lungs.....he had just been operated, and his colon had already been removed, he had this what you call a bag...where his "waste" go..... the doctor said that he need a chemotherapy badly to prolong his life, but many suggested that chemo will be too hard for a 84 yr old man, he may not endure the pain, this will just shorten his life blah blah..... guys!!! what do you think?? to chemo or not for a 84 yr old man???? what should we do??? because we all know that chemo is a very expensive remedy, so we badly need your suggestions....... all are welcome to reply..... tnx to all.....pls help my granpa :)

You have to pray for wisdom.  My dad had chemo for prostate at that age and could not take it, however colon cancer chemo is not as bad and they can do a lower dose to give him longer life and a quality of his life.  But everyone is different.  What does your gpa want?  My hubby is 71 and had chemo, is giving him much longer life and a fairly good quality of life. 

tnx for your reply......we didn't told grandpa that he had cancer, because he might worry about it.....but we told him that he just need some operation to be cured. thank you very much, hope that your husband will live longer and longer, have faith in GOD.... bless us all.

I had wished that my dad had not done the chemo, however everyone is different.  Thanks for your comments.  God is good.  Cancer does cause you to make the most of the time we have with our loved ones.

I would go with my gut feeling.  It sounds like this would be way too much for a man his age, and yes, he will get sicker. Why allow him to go through that?  That is an answer only you and your family can answer. As children, we never want our parents to die, but it happens, and we should think of them. My Mom died of lung cancer, and yes, chemo prolonged her life and that part of her life, she suffered terribly. If it were me, I would not do it. I would make my needs known, have the pain taken care of and go with dignity. Chemo at the end stages of cancer, removes the dignity and the quality of life. Pray about it. I will pray for you so that the right decision is made with much wisdom. God Bless You.

I think it depends on the general health of your grandpa.  If he's been in great health otherwise, he may tolerate the treatments fine.  If he's weak, he may have a lot of problems from the chemo.  I think you should have a good and thorough discussion with your doctor about what to expect from the treatments.  If the doctor is hard to communicate with, ask for a 2nd opinion and keep trying until you find one who can explain everything better.

thank you so much for replying......I hope that we would make the right choice....God Bless all of us, we will all get through this, just believe :)