Need real help

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Need real help

by suspicious on Sat Nov 17, 2012 09:26 AM

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I will not get into specifics, because if i do, this question will be 200pgs long. My husband has a "best friend" who is more of a woman than I am. He beat brain cancer due to tumor removal and chemo, radiation etc., about 10 yrs ago. May symptoms pointed to possibly another tumor.

(he is an alcohol & drug addict, fyi)

So, he FINALLY gets an MRI. They tell him that they are confidant that it is scar tissue from his former brain tumor & it was a "ticking time bomb" (the scar tissue), that was inevidtably doing to cause seizures.

Well, he had the MRI. Dr's said flat out - it's scar tissue. As soon as we hear that, the attention lavished upon him from myself, my husband and our four children, came back to our family as regards his focus. AS soon as our friend realized that was happening, all of a sudden, my husband gets a call from his friend saying he might have cancer afterall.

When my husband doesn't drop what he's doing that day, the friend calls back a day later & says "they" found cancer afterall. BUT that they're just going to sit back and "watch it" (he had a cancerous brain tumor rempoved about 10yrs ago. completel w chemo & radiation). He told my husband that they won't operate becaise it's too small and they wont do chemo or radiation for the same reasons because "the benefit doesnt out weigh the benefits"

I'm sorry but I have an EXTREMELY hard time believing this. Please help me figure out where to research a situation like this before I say something to my husband about his friend who, in my eyes, is so desperate for attention that he would lie to this degree, and be wrong, have this kid die, and be the butt hole of my precious husband's universe forever.

My husband means more to me than this desperate friendship - IF Im right. I just need advice & i have no idea where to turn right now. - Oh, he has no family. No friends. No kids. Nothing. Just my husband and now myself (default)

If I"m heartless i am deeply sorry but my gut is telling me that this is 100% bullsh*

Please help

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by suspicious on Sat Nov 17, 2012 09:29 AM

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I'm sorry  = the RISK doesn't out weigh the benefits. I'm very exhausted - 4 jobs, 4 kids, etc & so forth.

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by siblingof on Sat Nov 17, 2012 01:04 PM

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I'm confused. Is your husband's best friend a woman?

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by siblingof on Sat Nov 17, 2012 01:10 PM

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Ah. Okay. I reread your posting. I see you're using "woman" as an insult. Putting that aside, yes, your husband's friend may have a brain tumor and the doctors may be watching and waiting. However, none of us can know since we haven't seen the scan or talked to the doctor. It sounds like you just want to drop the friendship, so do. But don't force your husband to. That's my advice.

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by jon4156 on Sat Nov 17, 2012 01:39 PM

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I'm glad you got that SiblingOf, because it all went right over my head.

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by GeeBeeEm on Sat Nov 17, 2012 02:26 PM

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If the friend is Jill Kelly - don't lend her any money. It could be my tumor, but I didn't follow the OP either.

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by siblingof on Sat Nov 17, 2012 02:54 PM

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Jon-- I only got it thanks to having read a lot of medieval stuff written by misogynist monks.
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