Caregiver of Boyfriend with Stage 1 Colon cancer

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Caregiver of Boyfriend with Stage 1 Colon cancer

by beckyh31 on Fri Dec 07, 2012 06:15 PM

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My boyfriend of 9 1/2 months found out in March that he had stage 1 colon cancer and hid it from me. I found out a week ago that he had it and knew. I saw the symptoms and knew that is what it was but he wouldnt go to the hospital to get checked. Now i know why...he knew the whole time. He gets pains in his abdomen,Bleeding when he goes to the bathroom, stools are thin, nausea cant hold barely anything down,throws up. It hurts to see this and i just dont know what to do. He wont go for surgery like the dr  wanted him to in March. He says if he did it would kill him faster then letting it go untreated.I just wish there was something he can do to help him It hurts to know he is dieing. I just need some one to talk to

RE: Caregiver of Boyfriend with Stage 1 Colon cancer

by KellyC on Tue Dec 18, 2012 06:27 PM

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Ask him if he wants to have a life with you.  Encourage him to get treatment.  Stage 1 is rarely a death sentence and can be completely cured.  You be positive and tell him there is only good things ahead if he gets treatment.

RE: Caregiver of Boyfriend with Stage 1 Colon cancer

by beckyh31 on Wed Dec 19, 2012 10:36 AM

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I've tried getting him to go to the hospital and his excuse is he has no medical. does anyone know how i can get medical for him bc here in SC they wont give medical if u have no minor children in your custody. I told him i would rather pay a bill then lose my life. He just dont realize whats its doing to me knowing i may loose him.

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by angel1959 on Wed Dec 19, 2012 10:51 AM

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Call your local social services in your area or the cancer hotline someone should be able to help and also if he has cancer he can get a social security check if he cant work anymore all kinds of help out their don,t let him get untreated because it will kill him if he is young and strong he has a chance to fight it I lost my husband a few months ago he faught hard but it came back with revenge and went to all his lymph nodes and brain he lived a short 5 months after that so get him treatment before it is to late

RE: Caregiver of Boyfriend with Stage 1 Colon cancer

by beckyh31 on Wed Dec 19, 2012 09:09 PM

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What is the average life span?

RE: Caregiver of Boyfriend with Stage 1 Colon cancer

by KellyC on Thu Dec 20, 2012 05:33 PM

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There is no average life span anymore.  Don't focus on that.  Get him to SS and he can qualify for disability.  There are cancer centers across the country that will treat patients without money. 

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