how do i get help for my husband

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how do i get help for my husband

by lunga on Fri Jan 18, 2013 03:22 PM

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Hi, my 48 yrs old husband his been not feeling well for the past year, now I did google all his symptoms and I believe its colon cancer, he has narrow stools,rib pain in his left side, bloating , fatigue,blood stools, he went to a GP last year June but the Dr sad it will clear now its hard for me to make him go back to the Dr cause he refuses I think out of fear because he lost his sister to colon cancer 2 yrs back and the other one 5 yrs back, now I'm so stressed I don't know what to do anymore, I called his family and told them but they seem not to care, I'm alone in this, I tried to change the spicy food but he refuses to eat food without spices, and he also drinks, and now I'm watching him day by day complaining about almsost every thing, recenctly his eyes are now sore, he complains of this headache on the back of the head, any suggestions, please

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by Vipvinny on Fri Jan 18, 2013 03:38 PM

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I am not a Dr. But HE NEEDS TO SEE ONE. ASAP !!

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by lunga on Fri Jan 18, 2013 03:49 PM

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On Jan 18, 2013 3:38 PM Vipvinny wrote:

I am not a Dr. But HE NEEDS TO SEE ONE. ASAP !!
That is my problem, he is refusing point black, I now stay with the worry every time he goes to work I panic coz I don't know if his going to collapse at work or what, every time he goes to the bathroom I ask myself questions, because evry time he eats he goes he goes to the bathroom, and he has abdominal pains everyday

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by Ladylacy on Fri Jan 18, 2013 04:03 PM

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He is in denial and there is nothing you can do but worry.  But having lost 2 siblings to colon cancer his chances are very good for having it.

Men are hard to get to the doctors and once they do, it seems like they know more than the doctors or anyone else for that matter.  I am dealing with a husband who won't do as the doctors tell him.  He is a cancer patient twice.  Once for laryngeal cancer (2010) and now for esophageal cancer (2012).  I told him if he won't do as the doctors say, then I don't care.  Hoping this would change, but no not really.  I do care but there is only so much we can do and we have to worry about our health too.  As of now, by blood pressure is out of control and nothing the doctor tries is working to bring it down.  I know it is stress so now I have to think of myself too.

Hoping you get get your husband to the doctor ASAP -- Sharon

 

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by lunga on Fri Jan 18, 2013 04:21 PM

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Thanx sis, really I tried, I called his GP an he called him convinced d him to consult but he refused, I called the paramedics they said they can only force him when he unable walk, but we love them will just be strong and be there for them through out, and continue praying

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by Aurelia5 on Tue Jan 22, 2013 04:06 AM

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If colon cancer is caught early, the treatment is relatively simple. But the longer he waits, the more complex it gets. I know he is afraid and his imagination is going wild. I would bet your husband has heard about other people who have tried to fight it and has decided he doesn't want to go through it. And those stories will most likely have been exaggerated. The only thing that could change his mind is to know how badly needed and wanted he is. If he is loved and needed, tell him all the time and maybe he'll decide he wants to fight. Also look it up on the Internet- what the treatment is like exactly. The more you know about it, the more you can help him. Tell him exactly what they do in the early stages and he'll see it isn't so bad. I looked it up, and if he sees how much better it is to get it early, he might get brave enough to go to an oncologist. I wish you the best of outcomes, dear. You're a very fine wife to try so hard to help your husband. Aurelia5
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