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by oakisland on Tue Jan 22, 2013 10:52 PM
God Bless you and your family. So thankful that his transition was peaceful.
by angel1959 on Tue Jan 22, 2013 11:08 PM
So sorry for your loss and pray that god gives you and your family the strength and comfort you need.I went through it with my husband and loving father just 3 months ago he is a angel now and has no more pain and suffering and he will always be with you in your heart and im sure you have a lot of wonderful memories hang on to them
by herrmajo on Wed Jan 23, 2013 07:00 AM
They say that hearing is the very last thing to go, so even if they can't respond to always talk to them as they will hear you. Even when hospice came in to confirm my loves death, they talked to him as they say we don't know for how long they hear. When the priest came in he also talked to him after he passed. When my best friend was on her death bed, the nurses there also told me to talk, talk talk, she will hear, but will not be able to respond, but you will make her happy to hear your voice.
My symapthies to those who have lost and loved!
by mom2labs2 on Wed Jan 23, 2013 02:58 PM
Strange times, Reading your post brought back memories of when my husband passed this past summer.
He had MM and MF, along with liver cancer and the cancer spread to his spinal cord, making him paralyzed the last few months of his life. His BP was up at an alarming rate, and his dr and i phoned/texed each other with his vitals all day for the last week of his life. The Friday before he passed, his bp was so high, the dr told me to be prepared he was going to pass that day. I told him that he was going to wait till Sunday and the dr asked me how i knew; i didn't, i just felt it.
Our kids and their spouses moved in that Friday, and we all stayed close to my husband. I slept in a chair next to him (instead of sleeping on the floor next to him) holding his hand. He was having numerous heart attacks that Friday and Saturday. I kept him as comfortable with the meds you mentioned, along with his morphine. Sunday, he started the foaming at the mouth, just like you describe. Scared the daylights out of our sons and their wives, but having been thru death with my parents, i knew what to expect.
I told the kids to keep talking to him, and they did not know what to say, but i told them to talk about anything and everything. They tried to talk, but kept breaking down. I sat and talked to my husband about things we did, our dogs, the grandbabies (3), and i never said goodbye. After he passed holding my hand with his body on an angle facing me, i told him i would see him later. Don't believe in goodbyes as i know i will see him later.
He did pass that Sunday morning, just as i had told the dr. The dr called me as he was immediately notified by hospice, and asked me how i knew. I told him that him passing was his final gift to me. No more care giving, no more special meals, no more injections/chemo, drugs; he was relieving me of all my nursing duties. It was my birthday.
He never really struggled, I think the kids struggled more watching the process (they are 30 and 35). He passed peacefully, but the oddest thing was, when i was holding his hand, i felt the cold rush thru his hand and arm, just before he passed.
My thoughts are with you on this whole journey. Mine is still as fresh in my mind as if it were yesterday.
by amydibello on Thu Jan 24, 2013 06:28 AM
thank you for this....on bended knees...thank you for this...transition indeed ...beautiful, staggering and breathtaking....dear one...thank you for this
by Jaxon on Thu Jan 24, 2013 07:38 AM
Makes me feel so very lucky yet counting the stars I can still see. So very sorry for you and your family.
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