by Tritzy83 on Wed Jan 23, 2013 08:04 AM
My boyfriend of the past three years has just ecently found out he has melanoma. He had a mole on his big left toe that had grown out of control. He got it biopsed in December. It came back cancerous. This was very hard to find out. He sent me the pathologists report after I read it I knew it was bad. I knew I couldn't tell him how bad it was. I knew this would cause him to flip out and drink alot and do drugs. He was a previous drug addict. So for awhile it was ok. He was in denial. Eventually he started getting angrier and angerier. He has no insurance so we had to apply for PCIP. This takes a month. He got an appointment with our county hospital through the American Cancer Society. He went to the appointment and they told him nothing new. This angered and frustrated him more. Then a couple days after he woke up with night sweats so bad the bed was soaked. He googled this and what he got back was what I already knew. That it has more than likely spread. His anger has mutliplied by a 100. He says very hurtful things to me. Starts fights with strangers. Starts fights with his mom. I don't know what to do. I understand why he is angry. I knew this was gonna happen. I just didn't know his anger would ever be directed at me. I want to be there for him. I just need some advice on how to deal with this. It's really difficult to be around someone that almost seems to hate you especially when it's the love of your life. Please someone help me.
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