But whether that's good or bad isn't yet clear
by Mikeysgirl on Sat Feb 02, 2013 06:49 PM
by lolis33 on Sun Feb 03, 2013 12:42 AM
Oh my gosh...there's so much going on here!
Have you been with him to see any doctors? oncologists?
Personally I couldn't handle the "flip-flop" game he plays. From what you've shared it looks like he doesn't like going through this experience alone but is VERY particular on who knows about his cancer struggle and exactly WHAT they will know. Sort of control-freaky too with that and with his affective dealings with you. I'd step back for awhile and let him 'calm down' or hopefully reflect on how he wants to venture forward in a more reasonable manner.
This is all strictly my opinion and don't mean to upset you or anyone reading this.
by Mikeysgirl on Sun Feb 03, 2013 02:53 AM
by Mikeysgirl on Sun Feb 03, 2013 02:56 AM
by Samuelly on Sun Feb 03, 2013 04:12 AM
He loves you, he just hates you seeing him as "weak" and this crappy illness, in his eyes, makes him weak! A couple (married for years) just went thru a skin cancer scare. The husband wouldn't even let his wife go to his appts with him. He wouldn't discuss anything to do with his cancer with her at all! She had no idea what was going on with him either physically or mentally he totally shut her out!! Sounds to me like your guy is trying to shut you out to shield you from what may become a bad situation. You can bet that if his biopsy is negative, he will be CRAWLING back to you begging for your forgiveness. unfortunately, if you go forward with your relationship, what happens the next time a spot shows up?? I think that you need to think long and hard as to whether this is a relationship you want to persue! If you do, then a very intense discussion on what a relationship is (both the good and bad) needs to be addressed with him. Because at the moment, this doesn't bode well for a future relationship!
by Mikeysgirl on Sun Feb 03, 2013 11:15 AM
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