My Hero lost his battle...

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My Hero lost his battle...

by Bobbil on Sat Feb 09, 2013 09:12 AM

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My husband Rick lost his couragous fight on jan 29.2013 after a very long 7year battle with stage 4 pancreatic cancer...He was given 3 months to live and he lived a great life for 7 years walking 3 or 4 miles a day with our dogs, going fishing. riding his bike I am so proud of him he was such a miricle with everybody out there fight this monster don't ever give up, laugh every day and just hold on to each other. thank you for all your support over the years Bobbi...

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by joanneR on Sat Feb 09, 2013 04:15 PM

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I'm sorry for your loss. You were both blessed to have 7 good years together.

My husband was diagnosed with PC about a month ago. I was told last week that he has days to weeks to live. I brouHght him home from the hospital yesterday. He has a stent and a drainage bag and a Picc line. The good news is he is walking around and eating a little bit. I wish he didn't tire so easily but he needs to nap several times a day.I will continue to work until my husband needs me to be wtih him during the day. Then I will take a FLOA.

I guess I will need to take this journey day by day.

I would love to hear any suggestions that may help make this better from both of us.

J.

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by eternalife on Sat Feb 09, 2013 07:58 PM

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Sorry to hear about your loss. You have to be happy to know that he survived 7 years. He was a true warrior and with your help you had some memorable time together. My husband has stage iv EC and it has been about 14 months since his diagnosis, I suspect he had it at least 1.5 years really. We are currently in Florida on vacation and trying to soak up the sun and put our troubles behind us.. not easy.. the next while for you will be difficult. there is a good site for bereavement and some wonderful gals there for support.

Wishing you a peaceful life journey.

Best

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by megomego on Mon Feb 11, 2013 03:01 AM

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On Feb 09, 2013 9:12 AM Bobbil wrote:

My husband Rick lost his couragous fight on jan 29.2013 after a very long 7year battle with stage 4 pancreatic cancer...He was given 3 months to live and he lived a great life for 7 years walking 3 or 4 miles a day with our dogs, going fishing. riding his bike I am so proud of him he was such a miricle with everybody out there fight this monster don't ever give up, laugh every day and just hold on to each other. thank you for all your support over the years Bobbi...

So sorry for your loss.  7 years is incredible and so wonderful for the both of you!!!

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by megomego on Mon Feb 11, 2013 03:04 AM

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On Feb 09, 2013 4:15 PM joanneR wrote:

I'm sorry for your loss. You were both blessed to have 7 good years together.

My husband was diagnosed with PC about a month ago. I was told last week that he has days to weeks to live. I brouHght him home from the hospital yesterday. He has a stent and a drainage bag and a Picc line. The good news is he is walking around and eating a little bit. I wish he didn't tire so easily but he needs to nap several times a day.I will continue to work until my husband needs me to be wtih him during the day. Then I will take a FLOA.

I guess I will need to take this journey day by day.

I would love to hear any suggestions that may help make this better from both of us.

J.

Keep up the FIGHT.  HOPE lots and DREAM big.  My dad was diagnosed with Stage 4 PC in April 2012 - given months to live - and is still with us fighting every day!!!

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by Margienagel on Tue Feb 12, 2013 03:47 AM

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My thoughts and prayers are with you.  What a blessing for that 7 years.  My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer stage 4 in early June, with a few small spots on his liver.  His first "icky" doctor told him he had 4 to 11 months to live.  Then, after his first cycle of chemo (folfirinox? sp?) didn't work the doctor told him he could go on with the Gemzar or just "manage" his pain.  We chose to continue and fired that doctor, replacing him with a fabulous gal who is fighting as hard for him as we are.  He is now in a clinical trial using Gemzar and abraxane and his tumor marker has gone from 246,000 in July to 4,600 today.  I hope and pray that my husband has 7 more years with us.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.  You both sound like warriors to me.

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by joanneR on Tue Feb 26, 2013 10:42 AM

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Thanks you for your words of hope. We are taking it one day at a time. I am hopeful. I pray a lot. I rely on all you good people for support.

Thanks, Joanne

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by Jeremysmom on Tue Feb 26, 2013 10:56 PM

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On Feb 09, 2013 4:15 PM joanneR wrote:

I'm sorry for your loss. You were both blessed to have 7 good years together.

My husband was diagnosed with PC about a month ago. I was told last week that he has days to weeks to live. I brouHght him home from the hospital yesterday. He has a stent and a drainage bag and a Picc line. The good news is he is walking around and eating a little bit. I wish he didn't tire so easily but he needs to nap several times a day.I will continue to work until my husband needs me to be wtih him during the day. Then I will take a FLOA.

I guess I will need to take this journey day by day.

I would love to hear any suggestions that may help make this better from both of us.

J.

joanneR,  I am so sorry to hear your husband's diagnosis.  My son 26 1/2 years old just passed away on Feb. 2nd from pancreatic neuroendocrine carcinoma that had pretty much taken over his liver.  He was diagnosed in July 5th, 2012.  His last 2 months he had a lot of swelling in abdomen, legs, feet and even his tresticles.  He was drained 3 times and each time they got 5-6 litres.  My daughter and I took care of him his last 9 days of his life.  It was very, very hard to watch him deterioate so much every day.  Make sure you have home hospice help you because you will need it.  I am glad I was there for him during his last days but now that he is gone it just hurts so bad.  I cannot begin to explain the pain, loss, and void in my soul that I feel.  If you would like to know more about what what to expect when you you accept the gift of caring for your husband 

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by Jeremysmom on Tue Feb 26, 2013 10:58 PM

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On Feb 26, 2013 10:56 PM Jeremysmom wrote:

On Feb 09, 2013 4:15 PM joanneR wrote:

I'm sorry for your loss. You were both blessed to have 7 good years together.

My husband was diagnosed with PC about a month ago. I was told last week that he has days to weeks to live. I brouHght him home from the hospital yesterday. He has a stent and a drainage bag and a Picc line. The good news is he is walking around and eating a little bit. I wish he didn't tire so easily but he needs to nap several times a day.I will continue to work until my husband needs me to be wtih him during the day. Then I will take a FLOA.

I guess I will need to take this journey day by day.

I would love to hear any suggestions that may help make this better from both of us.

J.

joanneR,  I am so sorry to hear your husband's diagnosis.  My son 26 1/2 years old just passed away on Feb. 2nd from pancreatic neuroendocrine carcinoma that had pretty much taken over his liver.  He was diagnosed in July 5th, 2012.  His last 2 months he had a lot of swelling in abdomen, legs, feet and even his tresticles.  He was drained 3 times and each time they got 5-6 litres.  My daughter and I took care of him his last 9 days of his life.  It was very, very hard to watch him deterioate so much every day.  Make sure you have home hospice help you because you will need it.  I am glad I was there for him during his last days but now that he is gone it just hurts so bad.  I cannot begin to explain the pain, loss, and void in my soul that I feel.  If you would like to know more about what what to expect when you you accept the gift of caring for your husband 

just let me know.  Our in home hospice was not very good.  Fortunately, my son had many, many friends and one of his female friends is a home health aide and she was a Godsend and an angel.

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by joanneR on Wed Feb 27, 2013 02:55 AM

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Thank you for your reply. I am a Nurse. It is still so dificult to watch a once robust man (not very long ago) turn into a man that is 6'1" and weighs under 140 pounds. As to what I can expect. I imagine it's different with everyone. 

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain you feel. Did your son have any Chemo or Radiation? I understand that the better shape you are in at the beginning of this Dx. the better your fare at the end? I don't really know. If Chemo is not for my husband or if he refuses, I will opt for an in house Hospice. I know a few good ones. My husband fell down in the house last night and this afternoon, I guess he's getting weaker. Damn this disease.

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