My mom was diagnosed june 05, had whipple, 6 months chemo and radiation. remission for 6 months; now back in liver and lungs..small and they thought they could get her in remission. new drugs in use in just those 6 months ! she started well, ended up in the hospital with a bowel obstruction (11 days, 10 pounds lost). Now the chemo is tougher on her.
I took her to the ER two nights ago with vomiting. Her liver enzymes are through the roof and they don;t know if its the cancer or the chemo.
Go for the chemo; they really are coming out with new drugs all the time: BUT ask lots of questions; they do not know a lot about the invisible side effects (live damage etc). We are always stressing quality over quantity of life; sometimes our doctor has to be reminded. he is very aggressive.
Tarceva is supposedly doing good things in holding cancer in check and may nto be as hard as chemo...goofy side effects; face rash - some get some don't.
Good luck and I believe we can only do what we think it right and good and there is no one right answer.