Study found that widows and their friends/family often bonded via the monthly checks
by 17james on Fri Dec 08, 2006 12:00 AM
by Melinda on Fri Dec 08, 2006 12:00 AM
After just losing my mom and all my friends shying away from me the best advice I can give you is....to be there.
Go over for a visit, help out with meals, drop off a meal so noone has to cook, go over for a coffee, just drop in. Don't wait for a welcome, many times I wished someone would walk through the door and no one ever did. I sat for 5 long months and the only help I had was from the Pallative Care people.
This is going to be very tough on your friend, I think it's great that you are finding out information and being such a good friend.
I don't know if your friend knows this, but on his behalf I'd like to say thank you.
by Kehoops on Fri Dec 08, 2006 12:00 AM
Try this link below. The site is called Cirus of Cancer, and in the upper left hand corner, the site creator provides a ton of great tips on things one can do to help a friend with cancer. The site says it is for breast cancer patients, but I find that A LOT of the suggestions could apply to ANYONE with cancer. The site creator is a breast cancer survivor, hence the breast cancer focus. But again, there is much here than can be applied to anyone with cancer.
Good luck. Your friend is lucky to have you.
by Wepayhopkins on Sat Dec 09, 2006 12:00 AM
by 17james on Mon Dec 11, 2006 12:00 AM
Thankyou everyone, it means alot, i work alot because im retail and i try to balance my life with my partner and find it hard to get to see him out of sixthform, as you know christmas is peak season. But the interesting thing you said about religion is what you said, it's the faith that gives people strength. When i said i don't believe in religion is because i don't need faith, he does. I just want to know what is the best thing for me todo practically, because praying for my friend and his family isn't really doing much from my point of view, that's their part. To give themselves the strength and courage.
by Wepayhopkins on Fri Dec 29, 2006 12:00 AM
by 17james on Tue Feb 20, 2007 12:00 AM
Just an update really, has been a while since i posted but i took alot of advice and still am.
Unfortunately my friends dad passed away on saturday. I'm still trying to be there for him, as i know from previous experiences, his feelings have just become really chaotic.
Life moves on really, it's a great loss, he was such a kind man. But it hurts to think of their youngest child at 13 years old. There so strong and will come through twice as strong.
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