I Am A New Caregiver

My fiance was diagnosised 3 weeks ago with metastic keratinizing squamous cell carcinoma after many endoscopies and ct scans we were informed yesterday the doctors cannot find the primary site.He has been  very depressed talking about death all the time. I am getting so frustrated adn don't know how to help him any longer.  He has called off our wedding and doesn't want to get married until he is in remission.He also keeps pushing me away.. After searching the internet i haven't found anything good out about this diagnosis. January 19 he is having a neck dissection with chomo - radiation therapy afterwords. He keeps saying he can't go through the chemo..Does anybody have any advise on how i should handle the situation or suggestions to use to make him more positive? The doctor said he is a stage 2, with a survival rate of 60%. But everything i've read states otherwise? I keep telling him he has to be positive that we will kick this thing and continue on with our future plans and dreams. But the cancer has been consuming our life. I've had him talk to other cancer survivors with the same diagnosis and he said that made him more depressed because of the treatment he has to go through. I am so overwhelmed with all the information i've read. Does anybody have any suggestions or positive thoughts. I do not want to lose him..He is 55 and i am 50 so were no spring chickens.

Thank you so very much

Karol 

 

As a caregiver of a late cancer patient all I can say as that his attitude is important to his fight and recovery of this cancer.  Don't stop trying with him and 50 isn't old so tell him to shape up and give it the good fightn.  My Dustin was 30 yrs when he passed Friday Feb 2, 07 and we gave it the good fight and would advise anyone young or old to fight it will all you have and believe that Jesus works miracles.  I work in a bed and breakfast across from cancer treatment centers of america and I can not begin to say how many miracle stories I have heard.  Just one for example a woman I know had her liver 70% full of tumors and this was her second bout with cancer goes to have her pet scans and the cancer dissappeared. I also have had the blessing to be touched by the holy spirit by a man that had pancreatic cancer died and came back to life cancer free.  So if that isn't a little inspiration then maybe someone else can help.