But whether that's good or bad isn't yet clear
by Evalyn on Sun Jan 14, 2007 12:00 AM
by Alexia on Sun Jan 14, 2007 12:00 AM
by Midwestern on Sun Jan 14, 2007 12:00 AM
I wish there was more we could do or say to you to make you feel more comfort, but there isn't anything we can say or do. I understand your feelings of how you "may miss her passing". I felt the same, you just didn't know when the time would come. You can only do so much, don't beat yourself up if you need a nap or some minutes to yourself. It can drive you insane. Believe me, I understand. Fortunately I have a large family and we were able to all be there with her at different times. It just happened that my brother drove in over the weekend to be there as we knew that her condition was worsening. Never did we believe it would be end so quickly. Maybe it was because Mom knew we were all there for her and once again, she didn't want to "inconvenience" any of us. She handled her diagnosis, her surgery, and treatments with such grace and dignity it makes me wonder if I could ever do the same. She had great faith in God and that was something that helped her through it all, along with her family being close to her. I am so proud of her as I am sure you are of your mom. You are a kind, devoted daughter that deserves better and so does your mom. Your mom is the one that has made you into such a wonderful caring person. That is why it is so very difficult to let them go, but they deserve better.
If you can find comfort in knowing that your mom is "ready to go", please do. My mom told me a couple of days before she died that she wished it were over. I know she felt that all of us were suffering right along with her. I just know that she knew we loved her and we told her she was the best mom we could've ever asked for, and she was. It sounds to me that you feel the same towards your mom and I can bet she feels the same towards you. I just wanted to take over for her, to relieve her suffering, so she wouldn't have to do it all alone. But it's impossible. I am sure your mom would not want to "live" this way either. Our moms deserve better. My mom needed to be at peace because we knew there was no going back. I pray for you and your mom that you will both find peace. It sounds so cliche', but I really mean it.
You continue to be there for her with all your love and support and you will have that to take with you the rest of your life. KNOW that your Mom appreciates everything you are doing for her in her last days. If it were the reverse, we would appreciate them being there for us as well.
Take care and I am thinking of you with all my heart and prayers, I understand what you are going through.
by Madeline_Ruth on Mon Jan 15, 2007 12:00 AM
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