Ooops.. kinda mis read your post, I thought you were talking about your brother not telling you everything, after re-reading I see you were talking about your dad.. if he's like mine, half the time they don't know what they want or need. I spend half my time in the store trying to find something, anything that will keep dad interested in eating. Does your dad have a port? We insisted on the port, Dad hates needles, and the bike accident left him so traumatized with the entire medical profession his stress level jumps off the radar immediately so I work very hard to make sure things run as smoothly as possible. We have been so very lucky, the only side effects of the treatments we are seeing are fatigue and weight loss.. he is so fragile though, I must admit, I am very much like an angry pit bull on a short chain when it comes to my dad, he has signed over all authority to me and I deal with all of the medical people and procedures, On more than one occassion I have put the skids on something that was not being handled with the degree of compassion and focus that I demand it to have.. I personally see nothing wrong with that, it's bad enough our loved ones are suffering a really terrible condition, they should always be treated with kit gloves.. Do you have a prescription for your dad's mouth and stuff.. I have read there are meds to help all of that.. If you are of the opinion the degree of discomfort is extreme for your father, go to the Dr's and get them involved... there is no reason for him to have to deal with any more than he has to.. I know this is tough.... it's the most difficult time of my life.. hang in there.. let him know it is o.k. to feel what he feels and that you have to know in able to help.