My father is dying

This is the first time I've posted here. My father is dying of pancreatic cancer. The dr said it would probably happen this week. He is suffering in the hospital. I am devastated and not sure what to do. Do we tell him that it is happening this week? Do we just let it happen? I just don't know how to give him comfort at this time. He is in such pain but I think he still has a bit of hope. Do we take that from him? We are not religious people so a minister's councel would probably not help him. Please provide any info you think we might find useful. Thank you so much in advance. And I'm sorry for your situations too. If you are on this board, you must have someone special suffering too. Cancer sucks!!!

what do you mean when you say "we are not religious people" ?  I think we are ALL religious people, its just that some prefer to ignore it.  Most hospitals have clergy staff.  I suggest you ask for their assistance.  You may be surprised as what could happen.   It may be his best shot.

Emma-

My father is dying too.

He and my mother are staying with us and we have home hospice. It is very, very sad for us all.

Your father probably can tell how sick he is. Don't be afraid to talk about it with him. Someone in a similar situation told me they were never sorry for anything they said, only things that were left unsaid.

I am sorry about your situation. 

 

 

I understand your pain. The hospital should be able to get the pain under control.  My mother is in stage 4 and she is mostly pain free. She is on Oxycodone every 4 hrs. and also has a Fentanyl pain patch changed every 3 days. This may be unwanted advice, but here it goes. It's not about religion, it's about having a relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. This is the only peace we have. With the devastation of cancer in this life, there is the great hope of spending eternity with Jesus where there will be no more death and tears!!! Please find a pastor while you have time with your father, so he can spend eternity with his heavenly Father.

 

 

Hi

My mom is in the last stages of Pancreatic Cancer as well.  I agree with the last post.  My mom and I have a close relationship with Jesus.  He has given us so much peace and comfort during this time.  I don't care too much for "religion" or religious people, and in the scriptures, Jesus didn't care too much for them either.  He loved those that others cast away, the prositutes and the lepers...those were the ones that He was drawn to. 

All I know is that He loves each of us....so much that He died on a cross for all of us, so that we could spend eternity with Him.  That is my hope, that is my peace.  I cling to that.  I know that I don't make good sense, because it is hard to put into words something that is so strongly in my heart.  Please talk to a minister; you and your love one.  It will be the best thing ever.  It will bring you comfort and hope.  If you need to ever talk, please do not hesitate to email me: 

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I am praying for you all........