HI,
I had almost no bowel control after surgery to remove my rectum, a year of chemo & 6 weeks of radiation. I had 2 children under the age of 4 and a husband that worked - still does- 12 hours a day.
Lomotil didn't work. Immodium, Pepto Bismol. Nothing. I haven't tried Hydromet.
But what absolutely stopped the bowel was a small dose of codiene. It gave me 4 and a half hours that I knew I could take my kids to the park, go to Burger King - even have some fries and a soda and be a regular mom for a few hours. Something my kids really needed.
When it wears off the stool is more formed. You have to be VERY careful not to take too much. YOU DO NOT WANT TO GET CONSTIPATED!! (from one who's been there) Then when it wears off it is still back to bathroom many times. Most nights I don't get more than 2 or 3 hours sleep at a time. But do get in 8 hours of sleep - just waking up to use the bathroom and back to bed.
Codiene is a narcotic. It is difficult to find a doctor who will prescribe it. My surgeon did for 6 years and then I went to Sloan Kettering and they prescribed it for 8. If you can find a doctor who will do it, codiene stops all bowel movement in about 30 minutes and lasts between 4 to 6 hours.
If you have any other questions I'd be happy to help. Hang in there!!
It is a difficult road