Hello everyone,
Although posting my personal problems is not something i would regularly do, I am desperate and am in hope to find others or someone who has been in my situation perhaps. I am 26 years old and my girlfriend has just been diagnosed with cancer. She actually had it 3 years ago and the guy she was with at the that time left her when he found out she had it. She ended beating it and was in remission and was healthy up until recently she was diagnosed with it once again. We have been together roughly a year and have a very serious relationship, to the point where we will most likely be engaged anytime soon. Anyway my problem is here that since weve found this out shes been acting very different and rghtfully so with what shes going through but i almost feel like shes pushing me away and at other times shes completely opposite. I am always trying to support her in everything we do and as well i try and make sure i dont treat her like shes different and keep normalcy in our lives. However ive never been in this situation and don't know what exactly to say at times. I just make sure she knows i love her and support her and that i dont want to lose her. She also sometimes talks about leaving me because she doesnt want me to have to go through this with her and things like that, in which i always reply that i want to go through this with her because i am so in love with her and she deserves only the best in life and i will be there for her every step no matter what she says. And yet still she distances herself. Am i being too supportive? What should i do to help her because thats all i want to do is make her happy but am perplexed as to how to do that. Should i just continue to always let her know im here and who not? What is the best thing for me to do here for her?