On 5/16/2007 Brandon-cg wrote:
Hi, I am 34, my wife 32 was diagnosed with a brain tumor in February of this year. We have been through a lot, still going through quite a bit. While she is doing quite well with radiation and chemotherapy treatments, this has totally turned our worlds inside out. I am exhausted by it all. I have no alone time for myself, its been work, then home to take care of all the normal things 2 people might share. Plus, I get so little space to myself because my wife is always at home now resting most of the time. She is also understandably more emotionally needy. Believe me, I have been doing everything I should and can do for her, for the situation as a whole. Ive tried excepting help when offered, I have talked to my doctor who gave me Ativan to take at night to help me relax and fall asleep. To be careful I don't get addicted, I cut my pills in half, taking only 1-mg per night. I usually sleep well but I still feel exhausted. My doctor said that therapy really wouldn't help me because there is no fixable problem with all of this, its just something that I have to cope the best I can with. Im not so sure and Im wondering if anyone has any insight on this. Has anyone had some talk therapy, counciling, etc....? My guy friends are not much help, and to be honest neither is my family. They all mean well, but I have some real monkeys on my back that I need to talk about. Anyone else?
Dear Brandon
Please don't feel you are not doing enough or have regrets on how you are feeling.
I took care of my Mom with Dimensia. My Husband lost his battle of 3 years with Lung Cancer (he never smoked). 3 months later, my Brother moved in with me. He is waiting for a Liver Transplant. I am so very sorry about your wife. I so understand what you are going through. It's not the care we give them that is unbearable, it's not being able to help them with these awful deceases that just tears us apart. Please don't feel bad feeling the way you do. It is so very difficult caring for a sick person, not knowing what their future holds. I will keep you in my prayers for you to get the strength you need now and in the future.
I don't know how, but somehow we all get through this..
Take care
Anna