Hi. I am so sorry to hear about your wife's cancer. My thoughts go
out to her, you, and your family. I also went on Ativan when my
Dad was diagnosed with metastatic bladder cancer in January. Just a
little something to help with the anxiety. As to counseling, by all
means get some if you want. Your local hoispital should offer some
counsleing for family members/caregivers of cancer patients. You may
want to check either their website or the American Cancer SOciety's
website. I thought about going to some sort of group therapy after my
Dad passed away in March, though I still haven't done so. Denial is
stopping me at this point. In order to really be there for your wife
you need to be in good mental health. That means taking care of
yourself. You will be no good for anyone else if you are a wreck. Check
out local group counseling and by all means go to a meeting. You will
be able to share your feelings with other people in the same horrible
predicament as you find yourself in, and be able to voice some hard to
say feelings without feeling guilty. Please find the strength to get
stsrong yourself so you can be strong for your wife. She is in the
fight of her life and will need you to be there for her to help her
along the way. Best wishes to you.
Kathie B Suter