i am sorry about your wifes diagnosis and the whole cancer situation. my daughter who is 17 now was diagosed with hodgekins disease in august 05. i was so emotionally drained, the ativans could not even help my
anxiety. -i wasa taking clonopan and zanax to help me sleep. i know this is a curve ball in your life, -you will get through this and even though your dr, felt therapy would not help you it may just help you to vent out your feelings to a stranger. -I always needed to speak to others but it washard, I was depressed and still to this day worry about her all the time,- -------the --d-rs-,-- -w-a-n-te-d- -me- -to go on an antidepressan-t but did not.- i know-- many others in your situstion who have done that it also madfe them feel calmer. Your wife will get stronger and will not be so needy . hang in there and be positive. It does get easier but the nights are the worst times for me, My mind gets going .this will pass and so will the cancer/ How is she dealing with the chemo/ do you have AANY KIDS? Please e mail me anytime. you can alway talk to me, i had 8 months of hell. she had 6 rounds of chemo and then 5 weeks of radiation. hang in there and it isok to cry, take care jayne