Daisy Bear,
Not sure if you remember who I am....when I was 1st dx'd in Jan 07 I found your posts and you helped me get to the bladder cancer web cafe. I have been looking for YOU :)
I am sorry to hear what all you are going thru. I was dx'd with TCC grade 3 T3a and urachal cancer. Had RC and neobladder. There is life after it - really. Please email back - I think we can help each other with this.
Take care, Bless you, Holly