My husband has cholangiocarcinoma, unfortunately he doest have that great attitude. He is bitter and angry. He has a tumor (Bob) about 14 cm that now has some company. Chemo no worky ! We were sent home with "enjoy the rest of yyour life" but went to U W which has all sorts of ideas, TACE and ressection etc. We will find out about these choices this week. So now that you planned how to die with some control, consider fighting real hard for treatment. MD Anderson hosptal in Tx on cutting edge, but in your area there are probably lots of centers to consult with. And no 2 oncologists think alike. That is frustrating at best. You need to go out on a limb and take some risks and find oncologists that are willing to go there. Good luck !