In five short weeks our lives changed with a whirlwind of circumstances. My husband, 69,was diagnosed with rectal cancer, we were forced to sell or get rid of almost everything we owned in order to move into a smaller place, and I am now the caregive, cook, gardener, laundress, chaauffeur & care giver - a woman of many hats. After being down myself for the better part of 10 years with severe Fibromyalgia, the tables have now been turned and my husband is on the receiving end, suffering with the awful symptoms of chemotherpay - his first of many, I am sure.
The CAT scan showed that the cancer is encapsulated inside the tumors so I'm thinking that is a very good sign, and praying I am right. So much has been thrust upon me so quickly that I find myself in overdrive just trying to catch up. I want to know all I can about doing what is best & handling each situation that arises with the utmost care and love. I know it's really hard on him to be the receiver rather than the giver, and he is struggling with that issue a bit. Lightheartedly I just told him he had it pretty good, whatwith being able to watchcowboy movies all day and have room service!! But it is really difficult and challenging for both of us, as many or all of you already know.
I hope to be able to find a few good friends here that will make the journey less lonely. I think that's what I'm missing most of all right now - Jim is home all the time, but not very present, and I don't expect him to be.
I'm so sorry for all of you that are suffering and can see I'll be on my knees a LOT in this group.